On Soul Connections and Soul mates
You know when you meet someone for the first time, and it feels electric and amazing? You were sure that you were fated to meet and you feel a really deep connection with this person.
I had an encounter like that in my second year at University. It was an evening in June, I was getting ready to meet some friends at a cafe to have dinner and it suddenly struck me that tonight was an important night. I didn’t know why I thought that. There was an ‘atmosphere’ – when events surrounding your life feel charged with a strong energy and you can feel something building or about to happen.
I was about to meet someone who would be important to me over the next couple of years. The excited energy around meeting this person was like meeting a dear old friend after a very long time apart.
As soon as we met (by chance), we had so much in common and we understood one another. We maintained contact by email for two years and then in my final year at University we had a passionate but short-lived relationship.
Maybe you’ve had an experience like that before as well.
What are those connections?
Is it that you knew that person in a past life?
Is it your soul-mate?
How can you know if someone is your soul-mate?
Lots of people ask these questions in readings.
They feel a deep and passionate connection like that to someone, they have no idea why and sometimes it can be disturbing, especially if they’re happily married or in a monogamous relationship.
I have learned from experience doing these readings that a lot of the time, that kind of encounter is not always a ‘soul-mate’ – my definition of a soul-mate here is someone we’re going to have a significant, usually long-term relationship with, as that’s what most of my clients are really asking when they ask those questions: ‘because I had an amazing connection with this person…does that mean we’re meant to be together?’
There are many kinds of soul connections we can have with people.
Here are some of the connections I was taught about through Soul Realignment.
Soul-level Agreements and ‘Appointments’
Before we incarnate, we make ‘appointments’ and agreements with certain souls. Usually we pick out the souls with whom we’ll have important relationships – both short-lived ones and long-term ones.
The reason why you make those soul-level agreements to meet up is because you want to exchange energy and teach each other a little something through your interaction, at a specific time in your life, or for a more prolonged period.
All souls exchange energy with one another. You have your special, unique energies that you’re exchanging in many areas of life –romantically, professionally and socially. Energies that clients have been dealing in that I’ve seen in the past include boldness, courage, compassion, strength, clarity, playfulness, innocence, to name a few. Most people aren’t conscious of what they’re actually bringing to others, but that doesn’t stop them dealing in the energies that they do.
So, what happens when you keep your soul-level ‘appointment’ with someone is that you two exchange energy. Maybe you teach that person something about compassion in the five minutes you spend together. It can happen so indirectly and subtly – maybe through something you say, maybe through your manner. Just by being you.
And perhaps in your encounter they teach you something about playfulness and being carefree that takes your life or even just your mood in a different direction. You may remember the encounter for many years and it feels like a charged event because you REALLY needed and wanted that type of energy they showed up to give you (or should we say, that type of energy they showed up to AWAKEN in you.)
So, often when you have a strong connection like that with someone in person, whether it’s short-lived or long-lasting, you will have set up an ‘appointment’ to meet up in this life and impact one another in a certain way. And that strong connection/feeling of recognition reflects that fact.
Is that person a soul mate? It could be one soul-mate. I say that because my experiences with reading for people show me that many people have more than one soul-mate that they’re ‘meant’ to be with for a lifetime. For some people, it can be the case that there’s only one soul mate relationship but for most souls on a path of accelerated evolution, it tends to be more complex than that. The important question to ask is, do you and this person have a lot of energy to exchange with one another on a long-term basis in a way that serves you both? That’s a question that’s difficult to answer if you don’t know them well, but I find that a bit of time and your gut instinct can help you answer that.
You can also find out more about the type of connection you have with someone by consulting someone who can read your Akashic Record or look into your astrology chart – such as the composite chart and also the synastry between you.
Do we tend to make soul-level agreements with people we’ve known in past lives?
It’s possible. Sometimes a soul will be very familiar to us because we’ve met before. We move in ‘soul families’. Your nearest and dearest kindred spirits, those we have a lot in common with, tend to be those who have agreed to incarnate with you and keep you company here. Of course that is not their only role, but we are even pack-animals on a soul-level. We want the familiar and comforting energy of those we have known for a long time; those souls who can support us on our journey when we forget who we are and where we’ve come from.
Empty Attachments
Apart from the soul-level agreements, there are also unfulfilling attachments in relationships that can bring people together sometimes.
In those cases, you may feel drawn to someone, but not in a healthy way, even if you don’t realize it at the time. For those encounters, you will have no energy to exchange with the person.
When that occurs, it’s the case that these souls didn’t make a soul-level agreement to meet up in this lifetime. But they did make some kind of contract before then, usually in a past life, that is still tying them together.
For example, souls who promised one another five lifetimes ago that they would “always” be together in subsequent lifetimes can end up seeking one another out in this lifetime, even though they have no energy to exchange. Energetically, that can show in a reading as a negative contract – an energetically binding agreement to incarnate together lifetime after lifetime.
That contract can sometimes occur for couples who are happy together – and in that case it often creates a feeling obligation between them and so clearing it helps. But it can also be the reason why people who are learning nothing from one another are still together. They feel compelled to honour that contract, even if its not in their highest good.
And sometimes a contract like that can be one-sided. In those cases, you may feel a pull towards someone but they may feel indifferent towards you and that might be because the contract is still open on your side but they stopped honouring it some time ago.
By contrast, a positive connection will be one where there is a nice exchange of energy going on. (For example, you’re teaching someone courage and they’re teaching you compassion.) Often the energies you’re bringing will be quite different and complimentary – like the yin and the yang energies.
Those are my thoughts and what I’ve learned on the subject of ‘soul-mates’. Obviously when I’ve met mine I’ll let you know how all of this measures up to my experiences 
Please leave a comment if you have anything to share on this subject and your experiences of these soul connections.
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I think I’ve encountered both somebody I have some kind of connection with and somebody else I may have an empty attachment with.
I don’t know if I’ve shared this before, but when I was younger I had a fantastic best friend. We clicked so well and when we were in a store once, some kind of intuitive once compared us to the colours orange and blue – we balanced and complemented each other. I felt very attached to her, but at the time I was dealing with a lot of issues and we both stuffed up the friendship.
Last year I met up with her to go to an event and it felt like we had never been apart. And, to be honest, that really hurt. Knowing that there was a connection and somebody there I could really feel comfortable with, but knowing she didn’t want that friendship back and knowing that even if she did, I still had so many issues that she wouldn’t want to deal with in me.
Will that ever go away? It took three years before I finally accepted I wouldn’t be her friend again and even now it still hurts to remember. I just hate knowing that I still feel comfortable around her in that way that I’ve never felt with anybody else. Argh.
And the empty attachment – I have this friend that feels like my total opposite. The friendship wasn’t exactly healthy either, because he was manipulative and somehow we brought the worst out in each other. Nobody has ever managed to bring out so much anger in me like he has. Multiple times I’ve tried to cut him off, and even though I never miss him I still end up losing my self discipline and talking to him again. I don’t have any want to be friends with him and yet I give in and let it happen again. But that’s my own fault.
I hope I do feel a connection like I did with my female friend with somebody else one day – but I hope it isn’t short lived. It felt like it ran too deeply. Some part of me hopes that one day we’ll be good friends again, but the rest of me really doesn’t want it at all.
Thanks for this post. I rarely encounter information on these types of bonds and it really helped to read about it.
A while ago I watched a video where Abraham-Hicks spoke about soul mates. I’ve heard Abraham speak about this subject before, but I thought this explanation had a lot of depth and clarity:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7ck4rEg_Co (5 minutes)
I think there’s a lot of nuance and mystery to this topic, especially when you look at it (and life) from a spiritual perspective and consider how all that manifests. It’s fun to explore.
– Bruce
5 years ago, I connected with a man online just as friends at first on a social networking site. There was a very strong pull towards him. When I finally did meet him in person, I wasn’t all that physically attracted to him, that came later. The pull was something I couldn’t explain but I felt that I would be in a relationship with this man. It took 1.5 years later for that relationship to blossom and throughout our 3 years together, it was a struggle. He was so emotionally scarred from an abusive upbringing and women cheating on him that he was very guarded with his heart. That’s why it took nearly two years for our relationship to take place.
I knew early on that we would grow spiritually/emotionally together. Upon many reflections throughout our ups & downs of our relationship, I understood that I was an impetus for his healing and he was my guide to compassion. I am much more tolerant of others’ differences and an more empathetic & sympathetic as well. My eyes to the world has been opened. I also know that he is doing the hard work of healing himself, forgiving those who have hurt him in the past. However, it had to take him breaking my heart in the process to really start his healing.
I am now going through the process of healing a broken heart but somehow, he is also helping me get through it. It’s a little strange and difficult to explain. Anyhow, I don’t know where our path will lead in the future (friends or more or truly parting ways) but I know that I have grown in leaps and bound as a spiritual being and I know that he is finally healing his past so that he can openly give his heart, which has been closed off for a great majority of his life.
That was a great post Anna, it definitely reminded me of a few people in my life. Thanks
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Hi Zora,
Thanks for sharing your experiences. Your friendship sounds a lot like one that I had when I was younger.
Sounds like an old soul mate. You know, you can also ask your angels to clear out any old contracts between you and this person. It doesn’t sound like an empty attachment, but there could be some sort of soul-mate or healing contract that pollutes the energy of it a bit. You can get rid of contracts just by intending it and writing down the intention.
And the same with the other attachment. You can definitely clear the energy around that through setting a clear intention, writing it down and asking for help with it.
Hi Bruce, Thank you so much for your comment!
That is a great video.
Wow Claire that is an amazing story. Sounds like you two might have had some sort of healing agreement but strange that it ended in a broken heart.
Thanks, Andrew! I am enjoying your new blog.
Hi Anna
I really enjoyed this post…really clear
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Hi Anna, thank you so much for this article. I had a very brief intense relationship (extra-marital) with someone who came into my life about 10 years ago, via an internet chat room, and the energetic connection was phenomenal. My father was terminally ill at the time and shortly after his death this man’s mother became terminally ill. This person has been in and out of my life (via phone calls) ever since and every time we speak the vibrational effect on me is very strong. Via a reading I had some time ago i was told we were to marry in a past life but he died on horseback before getting to the wedding. I was given healing around this but his name is forever popping into my head. I never call him, he calls me always unexpectedly. I have never asked him not to call, a part of me seems to “need” this connection. I always think of him at Christmas and do sometimes send him my love telepathically. Your article has helped me, thank you so much. Kind regards Jane
hey thanks for the article.
just recently broke it off with someone in the past few months – and it was very difficult because our love stems from previous past lives. i didn’t know this until i went to see someone but it made sense because every time i kept seeing our future (i kept seeing us together in a town house) then it would go to an image of two overweight lesbians in the desert. i really messed me up for a while because i was wondering if i was seeing my future – that i was really a lesbian still unconsciously in the closet. but when i found out we were together in past lives it made complete sense that that’s what i picked up on.
part of the reason i broke it up with him though was because i guess i had made a contract with someone else – even though my guides warned me about him being bad news. he just made me realize i kept part of my self dormant and this relationship i was in became beneficialness as he wasn’t willing to listen to any advice or improve the quality of his (my bf) life to move onward with me. which hurt a lot – because of the deep connection its like.. why don’t you want to come with me? but maybe we are meant for the future?
but yes the contract with that other man – an alcoholic who became so destructive to me and really messed up my life as a whole – i managed to have a conversation with his higher self and said we go way back in terms of past lives. a spirit guide also said we come from a very specific section from the source – i got a huge sense he will be a healer one day as soon as he decides he’s sick of his own alcoholic addiction. and apparently i’m meant to be a healer as well.
thanks for the article!
Very timely post! I have been deeply affected by 2 relationships that did not last for a very long time, and wondered if there was a deeper connection than what we experienced, or why these men and I were together and what greater purpose it solved (wow, what a slip, I meant to say served).
I guess the key thing for me is to understand how to proceed when I feel that I’ve met a soulmate. Sometimes I feel that there is more to the initial contact, but my usual coming on like gangbusters is wrong. It’s hard for me to sit with those feelings and see how the Universe guides the relationship, with me taking guided, intuitive action when appropriate.
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I agree with Bruce. There is much mystery and naunce to this area of life. Thanks for explaining things so clearly, Anna. This article reinforces many things I’ve previously suspected and expands upon my theories.
It’s good to be reminded that even so-call unsuccessful relationships can have a positive effect in the end. Soul growth, ftw!
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Hi Jane, – I’m really glad the article helped! You two must have had a healing agreement of some kind, as you were both dealing with terminally ill parents. That tends to be the case when there’s a situation like that.
Em – Wow, you must have been quite perplexed seeing that image, interesting to hear your story!
Eleanor – I love those slips. I wonder what they solved for you? I agree that it can be difficult to know when to be proactive and act on feelings and when to let the Universe do its thing.
Byteful, – I agree. You know, I don’t think there are many unsuccessful relationships that we go through. I guess it depends on what your measure of success is. Mine is that you learn something. So, I think every relationship is successful because it propels you forward and you learn something.
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Your article is really fascinating, I enjoy it
I have a friend I just met a year ago, we’re really close and we see each other more than thrice a week..
But I’ve always wondered about why is it that at a certain moment what he does is what I do and what I do is what he does. Sometimes when I get a fever he gets the same fever, same temperature, same symptoms and same results..
Just what kind of connection is that?
I absolutely love you, Anna! I’m so glad I managed to find you
You’ve really helped me with only a couple of your posts! I would love to hear how you and your soulmate met, I can really feel on a deep level that energetically we’re very similar, lol. I just have that feeling. You’re a wonderful, amazing woman, and I really enjoy your work! 
Claire & Anna
Claire, I saw your post from September 2009 and I wanted to say me too! and to Anna – I had a ‘strange that it ended in a broken heart’ experience as well.
I had a relationship that was about a year of friendship and six months of deep romantic connection, then an ending that was so abrupt it felt like physical impact. It took us both by surprise – my partner who ended it said it took him about 3 months to realise what he had done.
Things that helped me: a good friend telling me that sometimes when this happens and it takes both people by surprise, it’s because the Universe has other plans for them (she also said I needed someone ‘greater’, and I love her all the more for waiting until after the break up to tell me that); and Mum telling me that she had a vision in a meditation that he and I would not be together long term, but when she saw me with him, and how connected we were, she wondered if she had made a mistake (she’s a marriage counsellor, so I trust her ability to spot a healthy relationship). That helps me to trust that we were meant to be together, and that our connection was incredibly special, and it was meant to end.
It’s still hard sometimes knowing that he sees me so clearly, and I am the same with him, and harder still that on the rare occasions we have contact we are very gentle and loving with each other… but when I think about a return to a romantic relationship with him I feel it in my chest, not in my heart.
It was like being broken open though, and in the recovery I’ve audited every past and current connection to see if it is congruent with my purpose. It’s been fun, and maybe the broken heart was to get me started (Elizabeth Lesser’s description of the ‘Phoenix Process’ helped).
I feel i have some soul mates over the years and tho no longer together on occasion,i get glimpse of their live in my dreams..this is hard sometimes due to the relationship(s) not working out….one was M. we were together for 3 years. it didnt work out as his want of children conficted with my already having the children i was going to have. Though we broke up we stayed the best of friends and talked frequently until he told me he was engaged. Out of respect, i told him i thought it best to not talk anymore. I congratulated him and wished his life well. 8 years later i would dream of him and see things going on in his life. No i didnt write to share the info, but was saddened to see divorce in his future. It took me 2 weeks to stop crying!!! I finally had to tell myself “karen,M is a big boy,who has lessons of his own to learn”…he will be ok. I found out he does have the two children i saw in the dream. The dreams continued for a year and a half. I hope one day to talk to him again.
Often when meeting a guy, i can discern quickly if this is a soul mate or not…something i feel in the center of my being. And i agree totally with meeting as many folks as you do to accelearate your growth. that has happened to me. My own personal/psychic growth took off like a 747 years ago!
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Hi Anna,
I just stumbled onto your site and get a good feeling from you. Thank you for this site!
This article is very interesting. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and I always felt that he came into my life at the right time. He is more of a relaxed person and I used to be more emotional and used to get angry a lot. I noticed he really helped me calm down a lot.
I sometimes find myself confused though . I love him very much and I feel there is still more I need to learn from him, energy to exchange. We are very playful too. It’s hard to explain but sometimes I think that maybe he wont be the one I’ll spend my life with. But when I think that I feel devastated because I can’t imagine my life without him.
How can I seperate my intuition and inner knowing from fear and ego?
Thank you so much!
Imet my soulmate thru a blind date.We began as friends and over the summer really hit it off..One nite while out with friend we looked at each other in a different way and were married 4 months later.It wasnt a physical, I want to jump in bed with you feeling..Just a I feel so comfortable and special when I am with you I want it to last forever.There was an unexplainable magnitism that pulled us together..Sure we had disagreements, illnesses, unexpected emergencies.Things all couples face..But instead of pulling us apart we faced them together.We were best friend, partners, soulmates. We had the deepest respect for each other ,We were born and raised 1,000 miles apart and always said God arranged our lives so we would cross paths and be together..I year before he died my husband and I bared our souls and innermost feelings to each other.We stsrted from the moment we met up to the present date..Do you know how difficult it is to open up your most vulnerable thoughts to someone?To love them more than life itself and know they feel the same?We did everything together..We both had the same interests, hobbies..He was an exceptional husband, father and human being..He always thought of everyone else instead of himself..We finished each others senrences.When he inhaled, I exhaled….Our souls must have sensed his time was drawing to a close so I think that is why that awe inspiring and unforgettable conversation took place.God let me have him for 49 years and I can truthfully say it was one long love affair…..I lost him in body but he is still here with me spiritually…My husband, my partner,my best friend,my lover, The Love of My Life…MY SOUL MATE……….MLHASFAE
I really need some guidance regarding a situation with a man I met 4 yrs ago. It was at a place of leisure that I went every weekend and he had a girlfriend, we had a deep connection that I cant even explain into words. We had a affair for 2 yrs and I just couldnt hang on anymore till he was able to leave his situation it was so emotionally heartbreaking for me. I havnt spoke to him in a little over a year and the deep connection has been felt everyday. I have these experiences often that no matter where I go our songs will be playing, His name or the state where hes from will constantly be said whether its the radio, tv or people talking in public, it can carry on up to 20 times a day. During this time of seperation when im going to sleep I will hear either in a womans or mans voice say in my ear his name, this has happened at least 6 times. My ear also rings and I have been told by a psychic I am clairaudio and it even has interfered with her frequency and made it challenging to perform my reading. Recently I found out he contacts my best friends boyfriend and he has left the woman he was with. I feel deep within we are suppose to be together and I feel like the connection is pulling us together once again. Does this sound like my soulmate? What does all the other things mean? I feel like im constantly being reminded of him for a reason. Please help bring me some clarity if you can. Thank You
I have met a man on a social networking site. All I did was see his picture and a strong and overwhelming feeling came over me. I can’t really explain it. All that I know is that I had the intense need to meet and talk to him. We have now been talking for the past 4-5 months online and on the phone.We have been exchanging photos also.
We have everything in common and I mean everything.
I have never met anyone in this lifetime, that has everything in common with me. We have very strong feeling for each other. We are hoping to meet very soon. We are attracted to each other, both physically and emotionally. We are both hoping that we will be together for a long time, maybe even forever. At least that is what we both want.
I met this guy about three year ago and the first time we went out I distinctly felt some kind of connection.It was as if I knew this person before and we were just catching up on old times.We start a relationship even though we have our people and we realize that we would only complicate each other lives. The relationship is amazing(more than anything either of us could have imagined) but sometimes it scares me because one of us would say out loud what the other was thinking ,calls would come when one was thinking of the other and sometimes telling the other what the other was thinking, and we would have the same dreams at nights.The other day after making love I said sometimes I feel we were lover in past lives and he went white on me and I asked him what was wrong and he said he was thinking the same thing during the love making but was afraid to say it out loud because of my religious background.When I think of him all my past and present relationships fail in comparison to this one but I am not a fool to throw away what I have built with my current partner.I think that I was sent in his life to teach him how to be a better person and he teaches me how to live again.The friendship and understanding is so deep and nourishing that we have become better persons as result of this meeting of mind,body and soul.I knew from day one that relationship would be different from anything I have experienced and I have been in very good relationships in the past. We never had such an experience before and not sure if either of us will but it makes me start to wonder if there is such a thing as a soul mate or reincarnation?.We will always treasure this.
I had something happen recently that has me wondering about the connections between people. I recently went to a convention for people to meet actors from movies. I went to it with my boyfriend and daughter. At the convention I became aware for the first time of a man who I had never heard of prior to the convention. He is an actor who was only in two movies years ago and I did see him in a movie when I was a teenager but never knew who he was, never saw him in another again and had no actual attraction to him at that time. Actually when I was reading through the names of the people who were going to be there on their website I remember reading his name and recognizing the part he played but thinking to myself, “I don’t want to meet him!” Now that I think back on this it seems very strange. Anyway, the first time I really noticed him he was taking part in a panel interview and what I noticed was that he was so pleasant. He really didn’t talk much but he smiled the whole time he was sitting there. I felt this great positive energy coming from him. I still didn’t realize at that time how pulled I was to him. I did however comment to my daughter that I liked him because he was “so happy.” He actually made me feel “happy.” He passed me on more than one occasion in the crowded hallway and we made eye contact and he smiled and said hello. This simple interaction felt different to me than the same interactions I had with other people that weekend. I did ask him a question on the 2nd day but still didn’t realize how attracted to his energy I was. On the last day, I had decided I wanted his autograph due to the positive energy I felt from him. I once again saw him in the hallway and he looked at me and smiled and I smiled and I believe it was then that I felt the “aha” that there was some sort of connection. As I waited in line for another person’s authograph my daugther went on her own to see how long he and another person would be there. She came back and told me the time and when I was done with the line I was in I went to the room he was in and as soon as the crowd in front of his table cleared he said enthusiastically, “there’s mom!” I was shocked and taken aback because it suprised me. Then he said to my daughter, “You’re a good scout.” Apparently she had told him that her mom wanted his autograph and that is why she asked how long he was there. He said, “Where is your mom?” She told him I was in line for someone else’s and he said oh. After him saying what he said to me I was sort of standing there smiling thinking what is happening here? I picked out a photo and asked him to sign it. He asked my name and then asked if I wanted a quote from the movie. I said sure. He said, “Which one is your favorite?” I told him to pick. He wrote a quote and gave it back to me and I said, “That’s great,” and laughed. I then asked him for a photo with my daughter and I and he said yes. The picture I got was the best one of the whole weekend because we all look so happy. If you didn’t know better you would think I was with a great friend. I thanked him and walked away but the encounter and the energy I felt from it was intense. I kept thinking about it and wondering if he felt it too.
This interaction made such an impression on me that I decided to look him up online and see what he has done professionally since the one movie I saw him in. Prior to looking him up I instinctively knew two things about him. 1.) That he was a stage actor and 2.) that he lived in the Eastern United States. How did I know that? I don’t know. So I punched his name into Google and lo and behold, he has been working with a Theater group for many years and is also teaching children and he lives in the Eastern United States. Also on the website was a link to email him so I did. I basically just said that he was my favorite of all the people I met and that he put off such a positive energy. I thanked him for being there and signed my name. The thing that sort of got me about this is that my daughter recently was in a play and has decided she is very interested in acting professionally. Is it a coincidence that I met him and he teaches acting to youth? He never responded to the email so far but I can’t shake the energy I felt from him. I have felt inspired and excited and optimistic about my future ever since. I feel deep down that he is supposed to play some part in mine and my daughter’s future. I have never had this happen before and it has nothing to do with him being a celebrity because he has only been in one major movie and heck, I’d never even heard of him.
There was an actor from a popular hit tv show that also passed me in the hall on numerous occasions and spoke but I never got the feeling from him that I got from this guy. I know I will see this man again someday and he is going to play some part in my future. No pun intended.
Here is a link to a book I read recently about reincarnation and soulmates or twin souls Twin Souls Merging…Very interesting book…I wish more people that are experiencing this kind of “relationship” from the other side would come forward and share..
http://www.twinsoulsmerging.com/
Hey Paula, that is a really nice to hear your story. I met a girl in another country which I visited quite often but this time round it was a working trip. I’m not from this part of the continent but rather far far away. When we first met, it was a nice atmosphere talking to her and getting to know her. I felt the interest awaking in her. Then we met more often and I don’t know why, but I started saying things to her, which I would never ever do so to other women. I was honest about my feelings and I kind of propose myself to her. This is a really amazing feeling. When I went to her place, I felt really comfortable and my presence in her place was comfortable for her as well. Since we are both a little burnt by relationships, we both are rather careful about starting anything. Then I had to leave the country for other projects and we lost communication.
Now I’m back in this country and hope to see her soon. I spoke to my mum about this meeting and also my sense of lost-ness since we haven’t been communicating for around 2 months. She said this to me, ” Who knows, what God has installed for you. Maybe you are supposed to heal her.” Well I’ve gotten stronger spiritually along the years and have managed to conquered some negative traits in me. Maybe she is right.
It is nice to read about soul mates meeting either for a short or long time. I don’t really know my feelings right now as we haven’t met yet. There are some really similar things like what people her have written, finishing sentences and deep sense of understanding. Can I say that this is a soulmate? How do i find out if this is true or just an imaginative longing or wanting of my mind? How can i find out whether this is the right person?
ive been intrested in soulmates a long time and when i was younger i always knew what type of man i would end up with ,even as a child myself. when i got to secondry school i met a young boy, called ian he was so sweet ,the thing is he came along at the time i needed him, the connection wasnt all that strong then ,but i found out we spoke with no verbal words i looked at him he loked at me he smiled it reasured me .we met in the corodoor every dinner time .i didnt realise he would return too me . after i left school i started dreaming of ian alot .he comforted me daily on the astral plaine .the dreams became my inspiriation. and one day in 2005 in september i had a dream of ian but as an adult ,the next day i met ian .through a synchronised event .as i walked passed the garage, there he stood my eyes locked with his, and wow the deep knowing feeling i got was amazing to say the least,he was just as i imagined him to be i said hello telepathically he smiled at me we couldnt stop looking at each other my heart racing, my first thought was im so glad i found you again.it was instant love. we merged regularly through visions, and dreams . very powerful emotions arose in me and ian too.a feeling of peace and calm came over me most oft he time .was so natural. when he spoke for the first time i recognised his soft voice and i also noticed his smile and his big manly hands after this i learned through my dreams we had been together many times as so/mother as brother and sister and as friend by the see, my love for him is still as strong today as it was when i was young in all eight years our love is always grwing changing and evolving i feel very lucky to have met him again this life i believe we did make prior soul agreement or soul contract to meet again.
Anna, really interesting article, thank you for it..
i found your page when i googled soulmates tonight, as someone who was a good friend for almost a decade just threw me off balance by expressing to me that he has had feelings for me on a deeper level for all these years on a soul level..
at the risk of sounding cocky (which is not my intention), i was searching as to why, in my life, quite a few men have expressed to me that they feel i am their “soul mate,” however, i have not often felt the same inclination towards them… each has said that they feel a deep connection which they have tried to suppress or evade for years, in fear of jeopardizing our friendship, but it did not work to rid them of what they feel. i’m not even sure i believe that “one” soul mate exists for each of us…
i am curious about what you meant when you wrote, “for most souls on a path of accelerated evolution, it tends to be more complex than that.” one thing that has held a lot of weight for me was when i went to a vedic astrologer and he told me i will attain moksha in this lifetime… i don’t know what to make of that…
is it possible i’ve made many soul-connections over many lifetimes? or is there something related to my energy? i’m just curious as to why this keeps happening. it actually makes me feel terrible, as in the case today, as often the feelings are not mutual.
Hi Anna,
This article is sooo good… I have been searching for a while for some explanation like this.
A year back i saw a person and i could feel that there is some connection between us. I do not know how he felt about me. It was in my office. I happened to share his seat for a while. That too very accidentally. And after that i got a new seat. But sometimes something will force me to turn back and when i do so he will enter inside.This has happened many times. I have not spoken a word with him. But i am damn sure that something is between us. I do not know whether he has even noticed me. And also he is a married guy. There is nothing in common between us. Does this have anything to do with my past birth. I always think so. If not why am i destined to see him…
Anyone ,some insight
I keep running into this guy.We work in the same industry. But live in different countries.
The first time I saw him.I thought he is cute but ignored it.Something happend…I looked up and looked straight into his eyes.And I just knew that I was going to marry him.
He always stares at me but never comes up to me.And he looks me in the face like he is searching for something.But when I try to talk to him.He ignores me.
I can feel him,which is so weird because I don’t know anything about him.The last time I saw him I felt a sadness and I knew that I was not going to see him for a while.I later learned that he went to Brazil for 4 months.
I was invited to be a speaker at a conferences and I didn’t feel him there. 2 weeks later,the day was suppose to give my answer.I got a invite to another conferences for the same dates and he is one of the speakers.
This connection that I have with him is really confusing me.I went for a angel reading and the lady told me that we have a very strong connection and that he is very confused.She made a point of telling me ,that he will never dissapoint his family and that I should not let myself be used. Because his family will not approve of me.
This connection is confusing me…
PS I made no plans to go to the conference.
forgot to say .
When I dream about him. We are always holding each other and either of us wants to let go. And I always wakeup feeling loved… But the more I think of it and try to analysis it the more confused I am.
what is it if you are constantly drawn back to a connection years apart in this life right guy wrong time ..and for him right girl always wrong at the wrong time ………over and over with a few years between each connection but its so overpowering because neither of you can act on what your feeling without repocussions …the best way to explain it is like a magnetic pull of the strongest kind …and brings up both overwhelming joy and pain in waves
Hi, so I know this guy. I met him at school. He was really shy, and wouldn’t talk to anyone. My locker was right next to mine. I felt like he was someone I knew,so I decided I would talk to him because I sat next to him in one of my classes. My locker broke and I was moved a few lockers down. He soon started to talk to me. He wouldn’t talk to anyone but me for the first couple months. We soon became very close, he wouldn’t open up to me about his past and wouldn’t tell me about his feelings, but he finally talk about it. He had lots of problems with his parents, he moved around a lot and wasn’t used to opening up to poeple because he freared he would move again. He soon became popular, but always made time for me. I felt a connection with him like a cord was holding us together. I soon started having premionitions about him ( I get premionitions a lot). But I always knew when he was hurt and needed me.I soon realized I loved him, but I never told him. When he found out from a friend he told me he didn’t. Want me lie I wanted him. He started to pick fights with me. But we always got through them. I started to have weird dream of what I think were past lives. And the guy in them had the same eys as him, a deep blue with two big pecks of light blue in each eye, the guy in these dreams gave me the feeling he gave me on a daily basis. I felt sparks everytime we touched. He did too, I could see it in hs eyes. He never got over the fact that I loved him. One day he started yelling at me,he told me I was a liar. When I never lied to him. He told me I was crazy. I don’t even know why. But he wouldn’t talk to me. I tryed to fix thing, but I couldn’t. Its been months I still feel the heart break. I still feel a connection with him. I still get premionitions about him. He has a girlfriend now. But at school he stares at me. I miss him terribly. I know he misses me too. But I don’t understand the connection thing. Why am I getting premionitions about him? I think he might be my soulmate. I’m just going to wait it out and see what happens.
Hi Leigh
The same is happening in my life.. In your case he is living in a different country… In my case he lives in a different state… but we both are working in the same company… The first time i saw him i thought he is handsome.. but just left that… again and again accidentaly we met… and this guy will also look into my eyes…. whenever he comes in my dream we both will look each other and walk in oppposite direction as strangers…
i do not know what is happenibng in my life…. i strongly feel that he is my soul mate…. Wen he is near I am FEELING his presence… i do not know how… this never happened with any other guy….
The sad part of the story is that he is already married…
and there is no chance of me becoming his partner…
but still i feel like he is my hubby…. i think he himself will also feel something… do not know exactly… I want to hear something from you Leigh… as you do have experienced the same… i told this to my friends… they could not understand this….they tell this as a crush… hope you will understand me…
Why do we meet soulmates if we arent meant to be with them in this lifetime? And i mean people that you really connect with, and dont know how to break that connection?? Also the signs continue to be thrown out in your everyday life??
Appreciate any advice on this!!
Jessica
i read somewhere that it’s a meeting that we had arranged in our last life to meet again in this life. it’s a good question, i’m living out this question as well. maybe there are some unfinished business we had with each other that we have to settle in this life. i think it takes courage to talk things out and see what we could do for each other in this life or not to. i don’t know exactly, so it would be nice if some light could be shed on this.
Hi Annna…….
I can fully relate to what you are saying. I had such an experience in first year of my college and it ended up very badly after three years. I had so much passion and attachment to that relationship that I find myself living that experience almost everyday of my life.
It might be a soul contract or past life tie as you said because it was that much of a charged experience. I haven’t recovered it from it even now. I sometimes try to find the answer through past life regression and meditation but it hasn’t helped.May be the relationship had served its purpose.
I wish I could share insights that I learned but looking back it seems as though that encounter was destined for me.
Thank you for sharing this…
I really do understand what you are going through. My friends think Iam crazy. And I am making myself nuts, thinking about it. I really don’t understand what’s going on.
I e-mailed him and he didnt reply. So,I was trying to let go.
I was in his country for two days, hanging out with friends. Felt that he was out of the country…Told myself to forget him and get on with my life.
Then this morning I ran into him at the airport.I was in the lift .I had to get off and he was getting in . My heart skipped a beat.He said “HI” and went on his way. Like I was not even there…
Maybe ,I am the only one that feels this attraction.
This is interesting. I never gave any attention to this kind of subjects but my life took a complete different course after an experience I had last summer. I met this old friend I always had a very powerful attraction for. He appeared in a very difficult time in my life. He is a very courageous person doing all extreme things, strong introverted personality. We made love and after this short strange time we spent together it is like I received a part of him. I became more powerful, energetic and competitive. It is like he transferred a part of him to me and that part was exactly what I needed to be able to deal with my problems. I wonder if it is also happening to him and what would he have got from me?
This is amazing. I’m going through this right now and my friend always says he feels like he already knows me and he wants to find out what that feeling is. It feels so good and the feeling is mutual. I’m ready to see where this is gonna go.I’m scared it’s gonna end badly but I have a feeling he is my soul mate. We have a strong connection and I want him in my life no matter what.
Hi Anna,
I recently stumbled across your website whilst researching automatic writing and have read with interest some of your articles. (looking forward to the ones I haven’t got around to yet)
This post on Soul-mates is great, and I do believe that I have been blessed with being able to connect with most of mine. Here’s an example of two.
My best friend, whom I no longer see since moving across country was I believe my first connection. We came from two different up-bringings, shared different views and friends, I would even go so far as to say we were like chalk and cheese, but at the same time fused together. Many times, I picked up the phone to call her only to find her already on the other end of it. She would say something just as I was thinking it, and visa versa and we shared a humour that no one else got.
When she had her first child I knew things would change as the priorities did, and selfishly felt as if a part of me had been lost. (Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t jealous of her son or family, just felt incomplete) On the day she gave birth I went with her partner and sister in law to wet the babies head, and met this guy in the pub. We hit it off straight away. We have been together 22 years this year (married 12), and don’t get me wrong, we’ve had some serious problems, including a 4 year break. (although we still saw each other) but we complete each other.
I also believe we were destined to meet because he lived about 5 miles from where I did, but used to play football in my local park, I used to go to school where he lived. We worked within sight of each other, but never met until that night. He had walked past that pub at least twice a week for 3 years without ever going in until then. I wrote his phone number down wrong, (No such thing as mobiles for average people back then) and once I found out, actually threw it away angry and upset, but the next day found it on the floor next to the bin. When I looked at it something said to me 3 not 5 and I dialled the number again exchanging the 5 for a 3, and he answered.
Like I say, we haven’t been without our problems, but even now as I type this thinking about him, he has called me (he works away).
Thank you Anna, for your site. It is very informative and enlightening. I grew up in a very spiritual family but still have so much to learn, I look forward to the rest of your site.
God bless
Erica S
Yes, I have definitley experienced this. Didn’t understand it this clearly, and now knowing this better, helps quite a bit with a couple of recent experiences. Thank you.
Do you actually read all of these? Thanks for your efforts.
hi there
i met a guy july 2010..from the first day we met, i felt like i had known him for years..so comfortable in his presence..i could just be totally myself..
however, he was a recovering addict..of which i only found out after 2 months of being together..
he had very manipulating ways..cheated virtually with other women..caught him so many times…promised it would stop but it always started again…became suicidal..to a point of locking me up and making me watch..
i left him because of this, but then the attempts just got worse..
i knew the relationship was destructive…but we also had our good times and when they were good they were really good..
i would break up with him in the hope that he would stop hurting himself, even though it killed me to be away from him…we would always end up back together..
on the december 19th, i came home from work and found him, he had hung himself..
i have never experienced such pain in my life but strangely also relief…
i had a person contact me after his death saying he talks to her etc etc…after conversations, this person eventually became very nasty towards me..
my question,,would this have been a soul mate or a lesson..
what happens to a suicide in the other world,,,,can that person still connect with this world and if so how…
Read most of your material of the website. You seem to be one of the good guys. Found you by inquiring about ‘automatic writing.’ Thanks…
Hello,
Very interesting read… I was looking for some sort of explanation for my situation… I beleive I am a very strong person mentally and spiritually but am struggling to let go of my ex. We have been friends for 10 yrs, in a relationship for 7 ( with a 2 yr brake between). I feel right with him, at peace, happy. He recently cheated on me… Something that I always said would be what makes me walk away for good! I can’t! My mind is telling me run but that feeling in my gut says he needs me, that we need each other! He told me he didn’t want to have children with me yet I still feel this pull to him!!! Why??? What does my soul want?
Hi Astrid,
Let go of him and be happy 
ur soulmate is yet to come.. u don have to search him… he ll find u… 
People who come and go in our life have some purpose.. Nothing is just a coincidence.But the people who leaves us in the middle would have come to teach us a lesson. What is the lesson that he has teached you? That u only have to find. Soulmate is the one whose destiny is interlinked with ours. They will hold your hands till the end. Sometimes we think someone as our soulmate but they will not even look at us.. In that case its we who want them to be our soulmates and they they are not destined to be ours… We should let go of them… there is no use of holding on to them and confuse ourselves… they will definitely have a lesson to teach us and nothing more… our mind will give thousand reasons to us to believe that they are ours… but don believe.. our mind sometimes play tricky things on us