Cord Cutting As A Technique To Improve Relationships (And Your Emotional Health)
As you may know, a few months ago I have started offering cord-cutting sessions.
In this article, I want to address some of the most common questions people have about cords of attachment.
In case you don’t even know what a cord of attachment is, I’ll start with that.
What is a cord of attachment?
When you establish a relationship with someone (of any kind), you form two energetic structures with that person. The first one is a structure containing the unconditional love and the soul-level bond between you two. The second is a structure which contains all the negative patterns and dynamics of your relationship. This is the one that we call the cord of attachment. There is nothing positive about this attachment. You contribute patterns into that cord, and the other person does too.
Those patterns of emotion, thought and behaviour circulate in that cord, until you cut it. And that cord is connected to your aura, so the energies of the cord enter your aura 24/7 and affect you subconsciously in a variety of ways. Cords don’t just drain your energy. They send negative patterns back and forth between you both, and into your aura. Traumas can circulate in them, leaving you feeling haunted by them (for want of a better word). They can also cause you to choose relationships and experiences that you wouldn’t otherwise because they predispose you to act in a certain way.
What happens when you cut a cord?
When you cut a cord of attachment, you are lifting out and removing all of those negative behavioural, emotional and mental patterns that circulate between you and the other person. If the cordee is still alive, then your relationship can improve as a result. But not just that – your overall personal power and clarity can improve.
If the cordee is dead or you are not in contact, then it becomes a lot easier to put the negative aspects (and thoughts) of that particular relationship behind you. Taking a cord of attachment out of your aura can impact you in ways that you can’t imagine until it is gone. In my experiences with cord cutting, it’s as if you return to the way you were before that relationship impacted you negatively, except you still keep the ‘older and wiser’ bit.
Which cords do you recommend I cut?
We don’t form cords of attachment with everyone we come into contact with. And I will always check before we cut a cord that it’s one worth cutting.
But here are the relationships that usually have a lot of impact when you cut a cord of attachment to that person:
- Cutting cords to close relatives, such as parents, children or siblings can make a significant impact on your emotions.
- When you have a cord to someone close to you who has (or has had) an addiction, such as alcoholism, or an addiction to hard drugs, or even drugs such as marijuana, it can make a real difference to your aura when you take out that cord.
- Cutting cords to abusers and bullies can be impactful, whether the abuse was emotional, verbal, sexual, or physical.
- Cutting cords to someone you’ve had a difficult break up with can be helpful.
- Cutting cords to a current spouse or partner can be helpful too, especially if you are having difficulties in the relationship.
So we don’t form cords with everyone that we come into contact with?
No. We tend to have significant cords of attachment with family members. We also create cords of attachment when we become interested in a person, whether that is romantic or as a friend.
Why do we even form cords of attachment with people?
I’m not sure. I was sceptical when I first heard about it (especially when I heard that you can only cut one cord in a 40 minute session.) I just know that removing mine did me a lot of good and changed my life and I keep hearing the same from clients, which is why I am passionate about this technique.
When I was studying spiritual healing, I was also taught that we have a percentage of negative and a percentage of positive lessons in a relationship with someone (and some have only negative lessons). The positive experiences are reflected in the tie of unconditional love and the negative lessons form an energetic structure too. If you process those negative lessons and take the learnings from them, you can remove the negative connection and change how you feel about it.
Can you feel if someone cuts an energy cord to you?
The person you cut the cord with will not feel it. When you cut a cord of attachment, you are cutting the cord on your end – it won’t affect the other person.
Why does it take 40-50 minutes to cut one cord? Can’t you just cut all your cords in a few minutes and be done with it?
Sometimes healers think that you can just ask Archangel Michael to cut a cord (or all your cords) and it will be so. Or you can just visualize the cord-cutting happening and that will do it.
I was taught to cut cords in this way the first time I tried it. It didn’t work, and it has never worked, because you have to understand the energies, patterns and dynamics contained within the cord, in order to cut it.
Discussing the patterns often takes 15-20 minutes of a session.
Do you ever need to cut a cord a second time?
No, you only cut a cord once, and when you do it properly, it never comes back.
Does cord cutting affect the other person?
No. It can only change your energy field and emotions. It doesn’t impact on the other person because they have their own free will.
Can cords be removed in other ways?
You can reduce the negative effects of cord energies by doing EFT, or other therapies that work on the psychological level. But spiritual healing is the most effective type of healing for removing the cord permanently and minimizing the harmful effects of the cord energies.
I am thinking of cutting a cord of attachment to someone, but I’m not sure who – can you recommend someone in a session?
When we begin a session, I will ask you to come to it with an intention for the session. I ask you what the best outcome of the session could be for you. Then if you give me a list of people that you’d like to cut cords with, I will check to see if any of them are significant enough to cut. If they are, I will ask a divine being which one, if cut, will help you in your intention.
Do you need to believe in cord cutting for it to work?
No.
Is it recommended to cut cords to someone you want to be with or remain married to?
I personally have never cut a cord to a significant other, so I can’t comment on personal experience, but I was taught that this is one of the most beneficial cords to cut.
Does the cord cutting change the relationship?
It will change how you feel, and often helps you to be more in your power. But it won’t necessarily turn an abusive or negative relationship into a good one.
Are there some cords that are not worth cutting?
Yes – some cords are so minor that they aren’t worth cutting. We also have tiny psychic ties to people. I always remove those after sessions. Those are not the same as cords of attachment.
How can I make sure that the healer who is cutting my cords is doing it properly?
Make sure that the healer cuts cords once, and for good – otherwise you’re wasting your time and money. Some healers cut cords every time you have a session or finds that you’ve been ‘re-corded’. This does not happen if you do it right the first time.
You will also want to have details of what was contained within the cord – without awareness of those valuable energies that have been swimming around in your subconscious, you won’t move forward. This is one of the most important parts of a cord cutting session and if a healer misses this part out, they’re not creating any permanent effects for you.
You will also want to know what changes will occur as a result of cutting the cord. Someone who does it properly will be able to tell you this and also will tell you how your aura is different afterwards.
Do you have questions about cord-cutting that I haven’t answered here? Please leave me a comment.
(and if you would like to read about my personal experiences with cord cutting, you might like to read this article: Cord-cutting: a spiritual technology that changed my life.)
And if you’d like to find out more about my cord cutting sessions (and book one), you can do that here.
Go from zero to psychic in 13 weeks - Get Anna's intensive course here.
- Learn to communicate with your spirit guides
- Know your life purpose & soul gifts
- Learn to read auras & know who other people really are
Ive learned two types of cord cutting, this method you do Anna is by far the best. Ive physically felt lighter both times. It has many parts to it that I feel is healing on many levels. This is going to be my form of healing for a while to come.
Kate’s last blog.. Why Forgiveness Is Possibly The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do For Yourself!
Hi Anna,
What if it is actually a very positive cord, but you still want to cut it? For example, my ex is constantly showing up in my dreams just to “visit”; he isn’t disrespectful or negative in any way, and I think we both enjoy these nightly rendezvous. But I’m ready to move on, and I keep pouring my energy into this completed relationship while I’m sleeping! By the way, I’m happily married. I find it puzzling why it keeps happening this way.
Amelia
Hi Anna!
As per your suggestion I bought Roses’ book and I have been cutting my own cords. I spend as much time as I can reading the cord after and thinking of the patterns. Also I dowse after to make sure I have removed the cord properly per her method and that it is all gone, hooks and all. It’s amazing. With some people I’ve cut cords to it is like I have amnesia. I can’t even remember who I cut (have to write it down). They just go away. Like you said in an earlier blog like they happened a hundred years ago. Some of the more major cords seem to be giving me a bit of trouble. Like I feel furious for a few days, or nervous. Is this my aura adjusting? What can you tell me about the changes after a cord cutting. I’d like to know what your experience is. I cut the cord to my husband and I still am bothered by some of his past actions. Do I need to cut the cord to the actions as well? Thank you so much for this blog and your guidance!
Hi Rhonda,
In terms of the changes we experience after a cord cutting:
I do sometimes find that clients can have strong emotions coming up 24-48 hours after the cord cutting. Not everyone does, but it happens occasionally – perhaps it is a releasing of negative emotions related to the relationship.
In response to your second question, you can’t cut cords to actions, only to people.
The results are governed by the intention you set at the beginning of the session. If you go back to that intention and take a look at it, you’ll almost always find it has come about in some way. But the cord cutting probably won’t solve every single problem or issue you’ve ever had related to your husband. If there is one particular issue you want resolving, it’s good to include that in the intention in some way, i.e. ‘my intention is to let go of past resentment towards my husband’ or whoever.
Hope that helps.
As a healer and as someone who has received healing from powerful shamans, I have to say that I believe and know from my own experience that some of your information about cord cutting is incorrect. For instance, you say that cutting more than one cord at a time does not work. I have proof that it does. I offer this service to others and they feel immediately lighter and more free. You say that the other person does not feel it when someone cuts a cord, but I have found that to be untrue. The other party does feel it because the cord is exchanging energy with them. The energy gets cut off, they feel it, for sure. I also know that it is possible in some cases to re-cord to someone, and that does not mean that the cord cutting was not done properly – it just means there is a deeper wound to be healed. I don’t know where you got your information, where you studied, if you are a shaman or not, but I felt the need to write in response to your post because I know from my own experience, from having cords cut and by doing the cord cutting for others, that your information simply is not true. And it’s misleading to those who are unfamiliar with the cord cutting process. Feel free to contact me and ask me to explain further if you would like to understand more about what I am saying. Peace & Blessings.
Hi Robyn,
Can you say more about the shamans you studied with? I am particularly interested in what you write about re-cording – Anna, what do you think about this? Do you think it is possible to re-cord? I have been considering having a cord cutting session but I know that I will be still in contact with the cordee after the session, and have wondered whether it would really be possible to become totally free of negative patterns or whether, as Robyn suggests, those cords might just reappear.
Thanks to you both.
Robyn,
Thanks for your comment. Your way of cord cutting may work just as well as mine. But I still wouldn’t cut more than one cord in a session. I prefer to cut one per session because I like to spend 50 minutes working on the one relationship.
I have to say I disagree 100% with the idea that you can be re-corded. I’ve cut hundreds of cords using the method I trained with, and I’ve never seen a person be re-corded in that time.
I used to cut cords using another method (asking Archangel Michael to cut them, and that was about it) and yes people would constantly be re-corded. It was frustrating.
I do think it depends on what method you use.
In terms of the other person feeling the energy, when a cord is cut, it seems we think about it differently. When I cut a cord of attachment, I cut it on the client’s end. I don’t cut it on the cordee’s end, because they haven’t asked for that cord to be cut and to do so would violate their free will, surely. I’m not even working with the cordee. So, the other person wouldn’t feel it if it hasn’t been cut on their end.
On the other hand, the cordee might notice if the client feels differently after the cord cutting session (and behaves differently) and the cordee might respond in kind, if the two people are still contact. But that’s as far as it goes in my view.
Sorry you personally find my information misleading, but it is what it is.
I cut several cords per week for clients and most of my clients come back more than once because the method is so darn effective.
I personally have cut over 25 of my own cords and I’d never cut more than one in a session. I always wait one week between sessions.
So, it works.
Maybe yours is equally valid. I’m not saying you don’t get results.
But I certainly don’t agree with everything you say in your comment.
Thanks for commenting and presenting an alternative view anyway.
Hi Rachel,
As you can probably tell from my comment, I totally disagree with Robyn. What she says about re-cording doesn’t fit with my experiences at all.
If you had asked me 3.5 years ago, when I was using the “old” method (asking AA Michael to cut cords), I would have agreed with what she says.
Hi Rachel and Anna,
It’s okay to disagree. As healers I guess the most important thing is that we help people, we are effective as healers, and that we do no harm.
And to answer your question, Rachel, I have worked with incredibly competent shamans who studied through the Four Winds Society. Shamanism, from my experience, goes way deeper than what most know of as simple energy healing. They deal with energy bodies and layers of wounds that take time to come to the surface, sometimes years. There is no way I can describe the kind of healing a really competent shaman does in a brief paragraph, but feel free to look into it on your own. And like all practitioners, not all shamans are created equal. I have been blessed to find two very amazing ones.
Also, I feel I must elaborate on how I cut cords. I don’t just go ‘swoosh’ and have them all done at once. I work on one at a time, feeling them gently, their energy and cut only what needs to be cut… one at a time… but in one session. And it works.
About your belief about re-cording, look into shamanism to understand how this is possible even with a competent healer.
I hope this helped to explain more of where I am coming from.
Peace & Blessings,
Robyn