Most choose to continue on their path of evolution. A few choose to hang around, for different reasons.

This might sound funny but I know that there are many levels of ‘deadness’. Some souls cut ties with their living loved ones altogether after a while, and some don’t until their loved ones have passed on, or reached a certain level of self-actualization on the earth plane.

My main area of work with the dead has been helping them to move on when they request assistance. They can definitely become earthbound and stuck here (in properties and also attached to people) because they’re afraid to move on or because they want to be connected to a loved one, but in this plane. That has given me a different perspective on how appropriate it is for the dead to hang around because I’ve seen the negative effects of it for the person who is having energy drawn from them. Often the person who is supporting the deceased spirit doesn’t know that it’s taking up a lot of energy until the spirit is no longer there and it makes energy suddenly available.

I know I can’t presume to know what is an ‘appropriate’ path to take, for another soul, dead or living. But I can say with some certainty that if you are interacting with a dead person on a regular basis, and they are residing in this plane without a physical 3D body, they are getting their energy from somewhere in this plane. That could be you, or it could be another person. It’s not possible for the dead to exist here effortlessly. It takes work and skill to communicate with the living and exist on this plane when you don’t have a (physical, 3D) body. Living humans are obviously supported in their lives in this plane because we have bodies that we can nourish, and we have an energy body connected to source, that interacts with the physical body, and emotional and mental bodies, among others. It all fits together nicely for functioning here in this plane. But for dead people, it’s an unusual choice to stay here, that has a price, thus there is always a reason not to move on. For your friend stuckness could be the price for staying here, or it could be something else. You will have more information on this than I do as you are the one who is actually communicating with this spirit.

Why don’t you ask your friend why he is still here? I think the answer would be interesting.

Sarah – I feel like your situation is a little different because your husband is still reachable and available (wherever he is) but I don’t feel he’s existing here in this plane. What do you feel about that? I feel he has developed his communication skills in this regard because of your relationship and bond but is not actually existing here. He isn’t moving on without you though, for whatever reason. But if you personally don’t find that draining right now, and you are enjoying the ongoing connection, then I guess there is no problem.

PS – if you send me your email address via the contact form, I can pass it on to Jack.

You’re correct that my life has been a series of mini-adventures with Jim, but even more interesting than his signs is the thinking he’s put behind them. It’s quite clear to me that he not only looks 22 but acts it as well. There’s still a lot of the kid still in Jim, and he hasn’t changed one bit. He has my surroundings memorized, so when I’m alone, he will move something that only I would know has been moved. But when another person is around, he will do something that no one would take credit for, such as hang a belt from a rafter in the kitchen or overturn a glass with a little water still in it, thus making a small puddle on the counter. Living with Jim has been a little like a 3-ring circus, which is why I believe he doesn’t leave. Having a blast.

I’m happy to say my husband visits have been fun too, frequent and inspiring and definitely NOT draining, on the contrary, life is been richer and brighter with him here. He is also fun, calm, happy and settled, so I don’t believe for a minute that he’s hanging on with unresolved issues. I have been communicating with him via inspirational writing and meditation – if there were unresolved issues we’ve had plenty of time to make peace with them. I also pray so that he not come to me when my energy is low or bad (the very time people say loved ones come because they’re needed). I wanted to be very clear that I want him to come when he wants to not because he has to rescue me from some physical world stress. As a result his appearances have been spontaneous and fun.

I know others, including mediums who still have frequent visits from loved ones decades later without having to call them. I assume if it was bad for them or their loved ones they know how to release them or at the very least, since they have such a clear channel open that at some point over the last three or four decades they could have resolved any outstanding issues.

I still don’t know what lies ahead for us, or how relationships continue across the veil, but Jack I’d love to hear more about your experiences, they sound fun and encouraging. If you’re willing to share, I’m happy to post my email address.

Sarah

Everything you say seems logical, but it doesn’t explain why Jim is still here and leaving me signs on a continual basis–5 or so in the past week alone. His signs are always in response to questions that I’ve asked him; they are never random, as some have assumed. I have a belt now hanging in my kitchen, an oven mitt and a piece of shelf liner placed symmetrically on top of it sitting on my printer, a desk lamp moved to a spot too far away for me to see under it, and the list goes on. Lately Jim has been fiddling with my MP3 player, making things happen that can’t normally happen–volume fading before the song is finished, just one song advancing to the next song when the Repeat function is engaged, while all the other songs repeat, volume level dropping to zero at the end of a song, causing me to think the battery was discharged when it wasn’t, etc.–and the player is not broken.

If there has to be a reason for his returning decades after we parted, then I guess it could be because there was unfinished business between us but which has since been resolved through discussion. And yet, after 2 years of communication, he’s still here. Could it be because we’re both having too much fun? In college Jim loved to play tricks on me, and I enjoyed it when he did, so maybe that is reason enough for a spirit to stay around–for pure enjoyment. Why not? How many other living souls do you suppose are carrying on lively conversations with him, as I am doing? I’m guessing zero, so he has no reason to leave. Having too much fun.

As for not having a body, he obviously has one because he was seen and engaged in conversation by two psychic acquaintances while I slept in another room. Both described him as looking exactly as in his college graduation photo taken at age 22 (our age when we last met), even though he died in a fire at age 44. Both described his body as perfectly normal-looking, not wispy or semi-transparent, and said that he walked around the room or sat in a chair. The only thing different about him, according to them, was that although he spoke in a normal voice, his lips didn’t move. But he looked so normal that, until he identified himself as my friend, the first eyewitness assumed he was an intruder and inquired as to how he got into the house with all the doors and windows locked.

Are you talking about deceased spirits who have just passed or other spirits, like guides? They are very different from one another in terms of their path.

From what I know about deceased spirits, a deceased person cannot live in this world without drawing energy from the living person they’re communicating with. So if you’re in constant contact with a deceased person, they are using your energy to stay in this plane. That’s draining for you. For this reason, most spirits do not usually hang around without a good reason – i.e. their death was unresolved or maybe they are watching over someone who used to be their responsibility (they can’t let go). There is no reason to hang around in this plane without a body.

Very interesting … I have always been really fascinated in this topic. My father passed away a few years ago… and I remember one time I was asking for a sign of some sort to know he was still watching over me… and I got this amazing feeling of love that it brought tears to my eyes…. and this message I hear in my head… ” We are always here around you … you just don’t remember how to see us…” Ive had messages like that several times… about how we forgot how to communicate with or see spirits… I love how you explain it in Energy …. makes alot of sense.

Anyhow… I really am enjoying your messages …glad I found your site !! Thank u !

~ Tammy
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[Edited by Anna - I removed the email address posted here for privacy reasons. I emailed it to you Shane if you want to communicate directly with Jack.]