How The Dead Communicate With Us
Here are some of the ways deceased loved ones communicate with us from the other side:
#1: Through Dreams
When we are dreaming, we are very open to communication from deceased loved ones and from the other side in general. This is because we’re already in the astral planes, which is a non-physical place that we visit when we’re asleep. It’s easier for our deceased loved ones to ‘meet us half-way’, energetically speaking, by visiting us there.
I had a dream visitation from my great-grandmother (my mother’s grandmother) a few days before my mother got remarried in 2007 (although I didn’t realize at the time that it was a dream visitation.) Great-granny turned up, looking frail, grey and old – just how I remember her. The only thing she said to me in the dream was “your mother looks lovely in brown”. I felt a great deal of affection coming from her even though I hadn’t known her very well when she was alive. It was a nice dream, but I forgot about it soon after I woke up.
A couple of days later, I was out shopping with my mother for something to wear on her wedding day and we had looked all over town for the right dress for her to get married in, but we hadn’t found anything suitable.
Then, just before the shops were shutting at the end of the day, we found a gorgeous brown dress. My mum tried on the brown dress and it fit beautifully and she looked gorgeous in it. It was perfect. Then all of a sudden I remembered the dream where great-granny had told me that mum looked lovely in brown and I told mum about it. She smiled and said “Great-granny always used to tell me how nice I looked in brown.” Mum thought it was just a coincidence that she had found a brown dress but I felt like it was great-granny giving her blessing from the other side.
How do you know if your deceased loved one is visiting you in a dream or not?
I’ve had a few dreams with deceased spirits in them since then and they’ve all ‘felt’ very similar to me.
It’s hard to put my finger on it exactly, but for me, the ‘climate’ or ‘mood’ of the dream changes when a deceased spirit shows up. You might feel their love or affection for you, transmitted in the dream whereas before there was no particular mood or feeling to the dream. The setting of the dream may suddenly change to somewhere quite symbolic and it may become more vivid. You will often have the dream just before you wake up so that you remember it.
#2: Deceased Spirits Can Move Objects
Can the dead move objects? Yes, it is possible. Don’t ask me to explain how deceased spirits manage to mess with objects. I just know they can and do.
My mum’s sister who passed away from ovarian cancer around two years ago made her presence felt in a few different ways after her death.
Shortly after she passed away, my mother’s sister visited me in a dream and told me that she was messing with the clocks in my grandmother’s house. I rang up my grandmother the next morning to tell her what I had dreamt and she told me that the grandfather clock in their lounge had stopped overnight with the pendulum in the wrong position and they couldn’t get it to work again (it had never happened before and they’d had it for decades.)
Another time a book that belonged to my mother’s sister about ovarian cancer fell off the bookshelf while my grandmother was in the room.
#3: Communication Through Signs from Nature
The world of spirit is entwined with and superimposed onto the physical world and the natural world. You just have to be looking for spirit in order to see it. I’ve heard of deceased spirits sending natural symbols which were meaningful to them when they were alive – such as flowers, birds, animals or animal symbolism. Other signs from nature include rainbows, the person’s favourite flower taking up residence in your garden randomly – that sort of thing.
A while ago my mother told me about a local man here in New Zealand who died in a diving accident. He hit his head and drowned while diving in some coastal caves. When they recovered his body, three whales were sighted nearby, on the coast, hanging around the area where the body had been recovered. (Whales are the Maori symbol of divine protection.) In this area of New Zealand, whales rarely show up on the coast – you have to go many miles out to sea to see them. So that was interesting in itself. Then a few weeks later they were having a memorial service for this man in the place where he died, three whales showed up again.
#4: Communication Through Mediums and through your psychic senses
Deceased spirits are energy, like your spirit guides, so they can impulse us and connect with us in a similar way if they are around. But I do believe that it is easier to communicate with spirit guides than it is to communicate with deceased spirits. This is because spirit guides are connected to you, so if you tune into a person’s energy, you can also tune into their guides fairly easily if you know how. But deceased spirits are not attached to you as such.
So, if you cannot connect with a deceased loved one through a medium, don’t despair. There are many reasons why the communication might not be successful.
Remember that the ether is far removed from the physical plane. Communicating with the other side is a little like building a bridge (made of energy). It’s like you are on one mountain, in the physical plane and the dead on another in the ether. In between you is a valley. In order for you to make contact, someone, or both parties has to build a bridge. You can build an energetic bridge by raising your vibration and opening up your psychic senses and the deceased spirit can build half of the bridge by lowering theirs to meet you halfway. Sometimes deceased spirits may not be available to build their part of the bridge because they’re working on the next stage of their soul’s journey. Some recently deceased spirits want to build the bridge but they’re not yet fully comfortable in their new energetic state and cannot.
Even if you cannot connect with your deceased loved ones through a medium or if they are not showing you signs of them being around you, you can still honour and love them in other ways.
One of the best ways of honouring another soul is by letting them go.
You’ve probably heard the saying ‘if you love someone, set them free’. This is as true in death as it is in life. Deceased spirits can really benefit from permission to leave and go and pursue the next stage of their long journey. I know deceased ones who still have one foot in this dimension one year after their death because they feel guilty for leaving their family behind.
My grandmother told me about a friend of a friend who punched her dying husband in the face (he’d had a heart attack) because she was so angry that he was leaving her. My grandmother always found that story quite funny and sad at the same time. I’m thinking of this story because we do send out clear messages to dying and deceased loved ones about whether they are allowed to cross over that will affect their willingness to move on. And of course it is natural to want to hold onto people.
Something that is very powerful is to give your loved one permission to die while they are still alive. My grandfather did this in the moments before one of our relatives was on her deathbed. He talked to her to sleep like a little child, telling her that it was OK to go and to not be afraid. She died shortly after.
During the funeral, some native cultures consider that the spirit of the dead person is there, so they address them directly and tell them that it’s OK to cross over fully now. Then, they promise to honour their dead and check in with them at certain times, like on the anniversary of their death.
Even after they are gone, you can speak to your deceased loved one and tell them that it’s OK to move on. They will hear you.
You can also honour the dead by focusing on new life
Death is not just an ending. With it, new life begins, although you do not see the new life and the new stages in the evolution of the soul of your loved one (you only see the ending which is what causes grief). Know that your loved one lives on, and experiences new life and goes on to the next stage in their soul’s evolution, even if you cannot see it. You can honour and witness this cycle symbolically through planting something beautiful and seeing it grow.
How have your deceased loved ones got your attention? Please leave a comment if you have something to share.
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Hello, for some reason death has always affected me in deep ways, I feel a connection immediately to dead people even though I don’t like feeling this way. Last night I had a dream where strangers that had just died could communicate with me (I had never seen these people before). In my dream, I got three encounters with each dead person, after the third encounter they were free to go. During these encounters they told me things that do not make sense to me, regarding their lives or things they wanted me to pass on to people living, one man told me to tell his wife to be cautious of a certain person because that person had something to do with his death (he had been murdered) and she was in danger. In this dream, I tried hiding from these spirits, but they could see through things in order to find me in order to communicate with me and each get their three visits.
In real life every time I have dealt with death, I feel a deep connection to the person after the death, in certain cases, they come to me in “dreams” to help their families in a certain way, however the dream last night has got me feeling uneasy, I do not wish to open any path of communication with dead strangers, I’m scared…
I don’t watch any T.V, just want to mention that so no one thinks this could be happening, I have been without cable for about 6 months now, didn’t have a need for it.
What could be happening?
My beloved son committed suicide 8 weeks ago.I had a dream 4 weeks ago that a police officer knocked on my door I knew what he was going to tell me But I didn’t want to hear it so I told him to go out the back & Ill be out soon,when I finally went out he was sitting there with my son next to him.Even though my son didn’t actully speak I knew what he was thinking,he was confused & couldn’t work out what was happening,I had to explain to him what happened & that he died,he than went though some sort of door,I tried to go after him but I was stopped by 4 men coming back though the door.Then last night I dreamt we were on a family holiday & he was there I knew he was had died but he was so happy & relaxed,it felt so real.
My Dad passed away 3 weeks ago 24th december 2011 christmas eve, he had cancer and had been in the hospital for the last 9 months of his life he contracted 2 hospital super bugs and he got sepsis which was what directly caused his death he was 56. Afew hours after he had passed i left the hospital to go home around midnight and when i walked outside i looked up and saw a shooting star, afew hours later around 3am my Dads best friend was outside his house and he saw a shooting star aswell,he was also at the hospital when my Dad passed. Other things have happened to family members and close frinds since Dads passing also.
On saturday night i was on my own at home watching a dvd and a sad song came on which made me cry and i said out loud i miss you Dad, 5 minutes later i heard this strange noise which i thought was the dvd but then it kept happening over and over again so i got up and tried to find what it was and it turned out that it was my sons remote control car it was driving on its own, i was shocked and thought no it couldn’t be, then the next day i was sitting with my son watching his cartoons and the remote control car was still there then my son went outside to play with his friends and 2 minutes after he walked out the door the car started going again, i knew then it was my Dad giving me a sign that he is ok.
What do you think?
Lisa
Dear Lisa,
So sorry to hear about your Dad passing over. My mother died 22 years ago and there were many signs.
I am absolutely positive that your son’s car was moved by your father letting him know he had heard you and that he was there with you.
Trust your knowingness. I am sure there will be more signs from your Dad.
Sincerely,
Tora
Tora, You’re so right!!! I told of a story on this site where I had to go through my dad’s office to look for an old headset he had. I was going through boxes and felt like I was invading his privacy and said out loud, “Dad you know I hate rifling through your things, tell me where the headset is.” Just as I said that, a bag in the room made noises – a handheld game of dad’s went off spontaneously, and you know what else was in that bag – the headset!!! Aren’t we so fortunate to have this connection to those we love? My dad died in June 2010, but the signs come all of the time!
Hello to all, I posted on here nearly 3 months ago and things are still so raw, but about a month ago I spoke to my Dad on his photo stroking his picture saying please tell me you are ok and in and lovely place, just give me a sign…I had the radio on and at that moment Tina Turner,Simply The Best came on, which we both loved and had it playing at the intro to his funeral…shocked and overwhelmed was my reaction, maybe it was a coincidence but it felt nice…interested to see a medium then I can think its time to let go,however how hard it will be…love to all missing our loved ones x
My husband of 34 years passed away in January of 09. Several things happened after his passing that has made me feel he is here with me. First—the night he died my girlfriend stayed with me. Everyone had left and we were getting ready to go to bed when the doorbell rang—no one was there—shut the door—-again the bell rang–it happened three times that night. The next morning I was looking for his death certificate and military papers and was having a hard time locating them. When I did—the doorbell rang. Then no more doorbell ringing. My neighbor called me and said her mother who lives in her basement kept finding dimes. Well this happened to her when her husband passed and her daughter told her my husband would be leaving me dimes not her and laughed it off and went upstairs to make her bed and there was a dime right in the middle. When she called to tell me I went over to my kitchen counter where my kids were standing to tell them and looked down and there was a dime. I have found dimes at very meaningful times since. Also was in the dentists office to have a tooth fixed the Friday after he passed and was in the room alone after given novicane when the song they sang at our wedding came on. Now this song was from the 50′s. What is the chance of the happening. I know he was there. Also orbs in pictures have shown up where he would have sat if he were still here and an orb on a picture of quilt made for me a year after he died. It was made out of his old jeans and shirts. I know he is still here with me. You say to let them go—I am having a hard time doing that. Time does help but I miss him so much.
Hi Harry,
I just wanted to say that the contact my dead father has made with
me was never planned by me….he just showed up. From meeting him
in dreams to feeling his unmistakable presence in the room, these
things happened without prior warning. I was not seeking them.
You could be trying to hard.
Maybe just let your trying go. Then, one afternoon you may
smell your mother’s favorite perfume in the room very strongly.
Or, you may be doing something and suddenly hear your father’s
voice telling you to do it differently…maybe the way he had shown you
when he was here!
Or, you may meet one of them in a dream. Meeting a loved one in
a dream is unmistakable. You will know it when it happens.
One can try to hard for things sometimes, I feel, and block out even
strong messages. So relax, and stop thinking about it if you can.
Raven
Hi Dot,
Sorry for your loss. You must be going through alot right now.
This dream, to me, sounds like you helped him understand his passing,
and what to do next. It’s nice he made contact with you for help.
You must have had a very close relationship with him while he was here.
As far as a deceased talking in dreams, I have found they never move their
lips to speak. It’s all done telepathically. I feel it’s a pretty common thing, too.
I’ve come across others who mention their loved ones speak to them through
their mind, and not by speech. Things are much different on that plane than
here.
Take care,
Raven
Hi Vicky,
Before you go to sleep at night you may want to tell them,
out loud, that you do not want to have communication with
the dead while sleeping. It could be just that simple.
You won’t know until you try it.
Good luck!
Raven
Hi Raven, thanks for your message, would like you to know that I am grateful for your contact. With all the other problems going on in my life right now, it would have been nice to at least get some kind of indication that i am not alone- however it looks that after all this time it isn’t going to happen. I am sorry for questioning my dearly held beliefs in the paranormal but maybe I am of far too a lower vibration to make me sensitive or maybe I am not worthy and someone out there is just having a laugh at my expense…whatever, but I really did think that knowing what sort relationship I had with my parents I would have thought that at least one of them would have made contact because if they are there then they must surely see and here my pleas. Trouble is a lot of these ideas on the here after and such like do vary from teller to teller and I end up questioning my very own beliefs, how would trying too hard prevent them from getting through, other sources say keep trying, with multiple suggestions about trying to higher my vibration and all sorts of things, I am bound in the end to come away a none believer and that would be so sad. Harry.
Harry, you bring up some good points, and really, no one knows why your loved one’s don’t make contact with you. That doesn’t mean, though, that you have to become a non-believer. No doubt you’ve had other experiences with the paranormal, or else you wouldn’t have started into it in the first place.
You know, maybe it’s not you, but them. Maybe they do not know how to get in touch with you. That may sound silly, but it makes me wonder since some, like yourself, never have contact with dead loved ones. Maybe some of them just need help.
To help you, and them, out have you tried things like automatic writing, tarot cards, or journeying? Maybe using some kind of vehicle such as these would help bridge the difficult gap between you all. It’s certainly worth a try!
Raven
Hi Kathy, that’s a very interesting story about your husband who passed. I guess it’s possible we could tie them to this plane of existence with our attachments to them…I haven’t thought about it like that. I do feel that if they really, really want to communicate with us, they will find a way whether it’s through another person, or an animal, or an object. Long ago, our ancestors thought it a good thing to have deceased loved one’s spirits around. It was unknown, mischievous one’s they didn’t trust! But having Uncle Theodore, or Grandma Kelsey’s spirit hanging out was wonderful. They would even set a place for them at the table, or ask them to watch the house while they were away. In a way, it’s a shame we don’t still have those same kinds of feelings for our deceased. We would view life, and death so much differently….as they did!
It may sound terrible to some, but, I feel you should enjoy your encounters with your husband as long as they’re not making you depressed, and sad. Nowadays, just knowing my dad is somewhere close by is very comforting. But then, each of us who encounters loved ones in this way must decide if these encounters are reassuring, and happy, or not to them.
I hope you find yours to be heart warming.
Raven
my son committed suicide,but signs that he was happy and at peace was sent thru a medium,and a friend told me how i could communicate to him,made me ask the many questions which i could not have any answers to them ,made me realise that death comes in different ways and for some by putting their life here on earth to an end are much happier in the next plane.i keep talking to him in my mind and yet i tell him to move on,tho with great pain.regards annie.
Perhaps someone can help me decide whether I have gone mad or not. My fiance and soulmate in every sense of the word died on the 3rd of December 2011 from internal bleeding from cirhossis of the liver. That morning he still argued with the paramedic and told him to come and fetch him on Monday because he didn’t like hospitals on weekends. I had a charity function that day so i didn’t go with to the hospital because we figured it was just the usual varicie bleed. I only got to the hospital after 6. By this time Shane was already in a coma. None of us realised that it was going to be so bad this time. Eventually I couldn’t sit in the ICU any longer so I told him that I loved him very much but he could let go. I left the hospital and as i got home (20minute drive) the hospital phoned to say that he was gone.
Since then strange stuff has been happening. Now I don’t know if I miss him so much that I am just desperate to find signs that he is still with me. The day after his funeral I went and bought a blackberry phone – when I put the sim card in, 20 messages came through all from Shane from 2009. The first one saying Cestlavie – I know what that message was about the first time he sent it but how strange that that was the first one to come through. The rest were “boo – i love you” and that type of thing.
Then I went to my friend who channels. Shane came through to him and said that he loved me, he is sorry for everything he put me through, that his regret is leaving me behind but I need to go on and live my life. That he feels more alive now than he has done in years (he was diagnosed with cirohhsis in 2009) and when my time comes he will be there.
This is killing me to write this because I miss him so much so if the spelling has gone out the window its because I am crying while I type.
Anyway I have been dreaming of him but we don’t actually speak in my dreams but he is just there. Then at 4h50 this morning a song started playing on my blackberry. Its an Amy Winehouse song which is a remake of Be my baby. I don’t know if I am going mad or I am trying to hold on to him so much that now i am convinced that if anything remotely odd happens it must be tied to Shane somehow.
candice, sorry to hear of your sad loss, and although it won.t be much use at the moment things will get easier for you, and you will have time to get your head around the whys and were fores of most aspects of your partners crossing, by the way you certainly are not going mad because you are actually questioning things and not just clutching at straws and believing everything that happens as being something to do with your partner, you may get many messages coming to you, just be greatfull he can do that, i wish my family could come through for me, best wishes, harry
thanks raven for your contact once again, yes i have tried lowering my vibration and traveling, i have tried ouija, radionic pendulium, to name three, but nothing to date has worked, as for the pendulum i know only too well that i was being given totally wrong info, i think in fact it was me somehow influencing the thing even though i tried so hard not to, it felt so real and the pendulum seem to respond to the questions i was asking, but alas all wrong, has for me having some contact with the paranormal before as you suggest- i am not sure, it was not positive, and i am not leaving my self open to fits of over imagination, so it is not through contact with the spirit world or anything like that that makes me believe in the paranormal but other reasons, i see sometimes that catholosisme and things like the rosary are brought into the conversation on sites like these, i can,t really believe chrsistianity or islam indeed any established mundane belief system has got anything to offer appart from hundreds of years of dogma, for the desperate and feeble minded amongst us, i of course know that would upset some people but i want you to know where i am coming from on this, also when i hear someone setting them selves up as authority to talk on the subject of the paranormal and then waffling on about such things as the rosary makes me wonder where some people are coming from, RAVEN if you think i am wrong then tell me so but i don,t think you will, i think you will know exactly where i am coming from and agree, i had to tell you these things so you know that any future contact can be on a level where you do not have to worry about upsetting any deeply held moronic religious beliefs because i got over all that when i grew up and was able at last to work things out for my self, in fact when i was very young like 10 – 11 i would ask such questions like, if there is only one true religion why is there so many ? and why do they contradict one another ? deep thinking indeed from one so young, i even thought of my self as a christian once, no answers to anything there
even as a young child i was asking questions and getting no answers, i was reading about astral projection at 15 was approached by jehovas witnesses when i was 16 and the scenario goes on, no offence meant to anyone but i just wish people would sometimes see things for what they are, religion that is , oh and isn,t it funny how everyone thinks that theres is the only one, i became a member of a well known paranormal society till i found out the patron of the very same society believed that he was once abducted by aliens and whisked off in a space ship somewhere, wasn,t having any of that thank you very much, i am a very logical thinker in spite of my beliefs and will not be easily convinced of anything, its taken me ny on 40 yrs to get to where i am now (if that is anywhere at all) RAVEN something else you may wish to know, as i said my father passed over in 1998 but in 1981 he had some sort of an attack at work and died, clinically dead for minutes and then they rescussitated him, now he didn,t believe in anything that i do, he in fact used to argue with me and tell me not to be so stupid, however while he was out for a while he had an out of body experience, he said (as so many do) that he was going down a tunnel towards a bright light and when he was some half way down this tunnel he heard a voice say, it wasn,t your time and that you had to go back, well he knew that there was more to things than what he thought and it took him a couple of years to tell me this, i suppose because of what he used to say to me, i have belived in re incarnation for nearly 30 years and as confusious may have said, the more you learn the less you know, so where now ? at my time of life with family neighbours and a number of friends all gone, and no way of contacting my love ones, i think i can be forgiven for getting depressed, not to mention other problems, anyway thanks for your interest once more, and i will look forward with gusto to your reply, yours harry, x
Hi, I wanted to say ((hugs))to everyone above whom has lost and i always wonder about my story and feel i relate a little to the above.
I lost my partner of ten years in 2001 in my twenties he died of a long illness but the death was a shock. After he died (i never got to the hospital in time) i used to cry on my bed and ask for him to let me know he was okay. I would say make the tree shake, and looked out the window and saw nothing, i then realised if he did this then it would mean he wasn’t dead. I also said send a leaf though my window but nothing.
A week later i went into my bedroom and my window as usual was open around three inches and on my pillow on my bed was a great leaf. (my bed was placed infront of the window also with the head board infront of the window. I did’nt see it as a total sign, around 10 days later or more another leaf on my pillow. I placed both leaves in an old book of his.
The window stayed open and i lived there another two years and never got another leaf on my pillow.
The closest thing we had was our cat Gizmo i had her grandmother Maxine and Gizmo came to live with us full time, she was very special and the love of my life never ever had a cat like her.
She lived until she was 18.5 years old by chance she had the same illness as my partner a leaky heart value but she did very well. She began to suffer cluster siezures and i made the hard desicon to help her pass (she didn’t want to go still palying with toys etc.but i couldn’t let her go through the seizures and was sure one or the next one would kill her.
She was put to sleep 21st Nov (im still howling) and i held her. She was to be cremated privatly and ashes returned to me. I wasn’t told when, on the Thursday i attended hospital for myself and ended up taking a wrong turning and ended up at the vets i then continued to the hospital. On the Frid night there was this wind in the early hours and sat morning at about 9.30am I had trouble with the gas fire and opened the living room window to let the smell out i was then closing it and this wind suddenly came up a leaf blew in turned left and landed on the window still where my cat used to sit.
I did feel something and kept this leaf.
Oon the sunday i was admitted to hospital when i returned home after a week following surgery i recieved messages from the vets on my phone that gizmos ashes were ready to collect. Due to not being able to drive i couldnt get there for a week.
When i eventually got to vets i told the lovely woman at the desk the leaf story. And then i said to her I wonder when she was cremated, she said i don’t know it will say on the certificate, i said i think it was when i got that leaf the 23rd the sat. When she bought the box for me i read the certificate and it said the 23rd November.
I kept this leaf, i miss my cat so much my dad died two years ago and two months after my stand in mum and i never reieved any leafs or signs.
What do others think – i feel in my heart the two leafs are connected now too much of a coniencidence. (sorry for spelling) i guess my partner and gizmo were very special and i was too them.
sorry i have messed the dates up my cat was put to sleep 23rd nov on the wed and i got the leaf on the following sat 26th on the cremation card she was cremated on the 26th
Hi,
On 26th dec 2011early morning around 5am I got a call from my mother telling me my maternal granny who was living with us for the past 19 years passed away in the bathroom. We are two sisters, and I am the younger one. I have never been close to my grandparents as my sister the favourite one. While my grandfather was alive I never felt his love and care towards me, was sort of the neglected one. I was about 12 when one day I told everyone in my family that at 78 my grandpa would die and at 83 my granny would die. I Don’t remember how I managed to say these that time. Strangely enough my grandpa exactly at 78 died of a heart attack. After his death many a time I saw him in my dreams even years after, seeing him in the middle of the road, following us, me talking to him. I remember one dream where I met him and brought him home overjoyed see ma grandpa is alive he has come back to be with us and shared so many stories. It felt so real and as I woke up I felt as if I actually was with him, but I never used to be my age in my dream. I used to be a child. I dreamt of similar dreams having him with me or with the family many time for more than 5 years and then they just stopped occurring.
As I said I never shared a close relation with my grandparents as they showered all their love and care for my elder sister. I never felt jealous but hurt that why they never liked me or perhaps disliked me so much? I hardly spoke to my grandmother. Infect for about 10 years I didn’t speak to her, hated her for many of her nastiness that caused rift in the family. She had 4 heart attacks and though I helped her take to the hospital, visited her I never felt anything inside. But in the past two years, I fell sick, my personal life after marriage rocked, my health was failing. It was during that time that I bonded with my grandmother, we shared the same room. She used to be the witness to my fights with my husband over the phone, my wailings, sleepless nights and I used to be the witness to her loud snores, and often used to ask her to stop snoring. Unknowingly we came close to a point when I was leaving my parents place to go to my husband late last year, she cried after my departure and told my mother she may not ever see me again. Unconsciously perhaps, I had forgiven her for all the misdoings and this I realised when she passed away. She was to come to my place this march and was all excited for it. Me and my husband bought books she would love to read, blanket pillow all for her when she would come here. And when I got the news of her untimely death I am yet to recover from it. I’m suffering the most right now, can’t look at those books, hid them in the closet, and every time asking her couldn’t she wait to come her and die at my place. Couldn’t she. As. Write I’m still crying. Was she just waiting for my forgiveness. Two hrs back as she was in the nursing battle for life I was concerned but devoid of any feeling. Now I feel this sadness inside me, I miss her. I’m missing her badly, she was 86. I went to her funeral performed all the rites and rituals but couldn’t even bear to look at her picture. This past one year changed everything. It’s hard for me to believe that she’s gone as she always used to come back from the emergency. This time she didn’t have to go to the hospital. I didn’t see her during her lastntime, reached much late. I can’t even imagine her dead body but just remember her smiling face, sometime hear her voice in my mind. I’m suffering badly now almost into depression. I was notnready for her sudden death. Can’t ven look at the blanket, pillows and books I had got for her.
in 97, 2 of my sisters daughters was killed in an auto accident.a week or so after i had a dream of them.the first part of the dream i was talking to the oldest girl Brandi, and i was asking her how heaven was ,and she said she couldnt explain it to me but 1 day i would find out. then it was like a wall had spun around and i was in another room and i was crying and talking to the youngest girl Anita,and she held out her hands and had a ball of light,it was a ball of floating pastel colors.she said to take this it will help you get over us.about a month or so later i found out i was preagnant
My dad passed away 3 1/2 years ago from cancer. Every 6 months or so I have very real, vivid dreams. In my dreams I know he’s passed, we have short but deep conversations. I know he’s in a better place, it brings me a sense of happiness to know that this might be a visitation. He gives me messages to give to my mom. The only thing I wonder about is the fact that while he was on his death bed, I whispered in his ear that if there was any way he could communicate with me from the “other side” to please do so, and that I wouldn’t be scared. Maybe I should’ve never said that to him? I just hope that me saying that to him isn’t keeping him from getting to a place he’s supposed to be?
My Dad passed away on Jan 18th. Last November during a visit, I created a CD of his favorite songs. During the past month as he became increasingly ill, my sisters and I would play the songs for him as he lay bedridden. We told him after he passed that if he wanted to “contact” us, he should play one of the songs on the radio for us to hear. Two days after my Father’s death my sister (who lives on the west coast) texted me that one of the songs from the cd (Dean Martin’s “Everybody Loves Somebody Sometime”) played from her husband’s ipod. She had not even transferred the songs to his ipod! (she had downloaded the songs to her iPAD and apparently that can get shared thru a cloud from Itunes). Anyway, I texted her that I was so happy she received a “sign” and hoped I would get one too some day. Two seconds after I hit send the song “Lyin Eyes” by the Eagles came on the radio (which was his favorite song from my generation) and on the CD I had created. I burst into tears because I knew he was giving me a sign as well. It’s remarkable that we had not only asked him to communicate with us in this manner, but that he did so almost similtanously with my sister and I (living on opposite sides of the country). It gave us such a sense of peace to know that he is ok. I wish we could know more about his new journey.
hi
a few years before i was born my mother was so very unfortunate to have her fiance was killed by a workplace accident working as an electrian and before that day they were talking about how if he died suddenly no one would show up to his funeral.. a lot of people did.. the worst part about it was my sister’s first day of middle school and my mum couldn’t attend.. on christmas day one of my mum’s family friends gave her a note and said to my mum not to read it until after christmas but knowing my mum she got very anxious and opened the letter and it was from her fiance she couldn’t understand the letter but that night she fell asleep and her fiance popped up and they were on a plane and my mum asked where are we and he said we only have a little while but don’t worry your safe with me and he then went into a time warp to the first time they met and they got married he said i may be here but i always will wait and then my mum woke up very scared but relieved that he still loved her
a few years later my mum’s mum was slowly dying and they went to the rsl ad suddenly when the woman tried to talk the power would go out just how he got killed being an electria and the show could not proceed.
although i didn’t meet him i would be in so much pain my father doesn’t live with me and he never has so i classify my mother’s fiance as my dad
Harry,
I never believed in any of it either, and I am skeptical about a lot of what is written as I feel people do make up some of it for attention. But I will tell you the experiences I had with the light after my cat passed has changed my life (read above Nov 11th). I can only tell you that my frame of mind at the time was definitely very sad and with horrible grief, as it was so raw, that maybe that had something to do with my getting a response. The other thing I believe is that spirits are not going to hit you over the head with a response. They may be on a plane different than ours, and are of energy, so may contact us the only way they can ie) by working through electrical, sound or heat energy, etc. Perhaps they have tried to contact you and you did not recognize the signe. Harry Houdini’s wife said she and Harry had a deal that he would contact her after he died, in a certain way . . . she said that he never did. Good luck to you. I am sure others will offer you some advice.
Hi all! my dad died on the 30th dec 2011 I miss him so much my heart is truley broken…. i dream about him every nite! i just can’t except that he has gone… the day after he died to huge flowers blossomed from a tree that doesent flower until may……..a magnificent rainbow and a butterfly (in january) I have heard that these are the most common signs from our deaceased love ones.. I hope so as it has given me some comfort I feel him with me…xx
My mother died in 99 of a drug overdose, im 18 now so its been a while. Ive had dreams where she has telepathically asked me to jump off a cliff with her, i say no and she jumps, and im left alone. ive felt that this is how ive been, standing alone after she has jumped. Before she died, as she drove away, she waved to us casually as if she knew….. When she was cremated, and her ashes were buried, a sign appeared. My grandmother said that above where her ashes were appeared fuschia flowers that had never appeared before. She is my soul mate, the other half of me and i would do anything for a sign. Ive missed her everyday fore the past 12 years. what a thing for a kid to deal with. </3 we have more wisdom and appreciation.
I miss you, please come back to me.
My husband passed away suddenly on Nov 2 2011. My life and my childrens lives changed forever that day. We all miss him so much and ask why he had to leave us so sudden and so early. The morning after his funeral I was sitting on my bed with my daughter and best friend, and my shower started to trickle, we all looked in amazement and I said that he had come back for his morning shower. For some weeks after that shower would come on at all times of the day and night. Would that have been him? It has now stopped. Does this mean he has moved on and is at peace. I also have seen lots of feathers around since his passing, is this a sign or am I just hoping? Life is so cruel at times but I just wish I new that he was happy.
Harry,
As George Carlin once said, “I stopped believing in religion when I reached the age of . . . reason!”
My deceased father made his presence known one afternoon when we suddenly smelled the ointment he used to apply to keep the misquitoes away. Strangely though, only me and my mom were able to smell it. My sister was also in the room but she could not smell it.
Another time was a moth (gold in color) flew in to the room my mom and I were in. My mom felt it was my dad visiting us again. Then the moth flew over to me and just sat on my knee for a little bit before flying over to where my mom was.
I know Dad is in a fantastic place now and we will all meet him when we leave our physical bodies.
I can distinguish a “dream” from a “visitation” in only one way, and it’s very clear-cut: the visitation will stay with me for years and be as clear to me today as it was even 20 years ago or more. For example, in the ’90s, I dreamed of my two “old-maid aunts” who lived together all their lives and died three months apart in the late ’70s. I approached their home as I usually did, sat where I usually sat, and asked them, “What is death like?” to which they both answered (without a sound, and without moving their lips, as another poster mentioned) “It’s like nothing,” in the sense that, “It’s no big deal; it’s fine, it’s like anything else,” etc. And that really reassured me. They simply wanted to have a brief visit, and then I left, and we all felt “normal.” I’ve had many visitations like that from other relatives, which I can distinguish from a dream.
Also, I’ve also always wondered, since I”m the last of my family line and never knew many of my aunts, or any of my grandparents, etc., whether they can come through in a reading — I’m “aware” of them, as I’ve read their letters and done the geneaology and have so many photos of all these ancestors whom I never met — so, my question is, can our ancestors come through, even if we never knew each other on this plane? I have always felt an extremely strong pull toward Scotland, where my grandfather was born and lived before he emigrated to the U.S., and I’ve gone over there several times. I just wonder if they “know us” as I “know them” through their letters and photos?
hi there
my boyfriend committed suicide on dec 19th…
what happens to a suicide..where does there soul go…will they be ok..
Hi everyone. I am 20 years old and I lost my sister on June 25th 2004 so that would put me at the age of 12 going on 13 bc my birthday was the day after her death date. She got jumped by a group of girls and it caused her to have a asthma attack when she feel to the ground at the time she was only sixteen. A year later after her death I start having dreams of her and she would be in them. Sometimes I would ask her or tell her “I thought you were dead why are you here?” and she would say naw girl and brushed it off. Another time she was in my dream I asked her what actually happened the day of her death and all she said was she wasn’t mad at anyone who was with her the time of her death. It was like so real it didn’t feel like no dream. I really miss her though.
astrid, just like to say that even if your partner commited suicide he will still end up going to the same place as everyone else, forget the religious dogma about heaven and hell and all that, there is no hell and he certainly isn,t going there, when he gets to the astral plane he may have to go through a time of readjustment as to why he did what he did and to come to terms with things before he prepares for the next stage in his progression but thats it, NO punnishment ok, he is in a better place now and you will eventually meet up again, remember there is no such thing as time on the other side so he will have no trouuble in waiting to see you, however you are only young and it may seem a long time for you, your other question if we come back ?, yes nearly everyone comes back because earth with all its faults and problems is a training ground where we have to keep coming back to learn lessons, however be safe in the knowledge that you will be together again, some readers on this site may not be ready for the truth yet due to phony religious beliefes or one thing and another but you are still young and can may be look at things in a more unpredjudiced manner, hope this helps you to come to terms with the loss, also remember that your partner is still with you on occassions watching you in spirit form, talk to him daily as if he is with you and tell him that you still love him and he will here you,
I’ve had several dreams at various turning points in my life. After her death, my mother appeared to me and I felt a sense of both her sadness and life-direction. She was pointing the way to the future. Before her death we had a family squabble. I was partially disowned. Her presence in my dream state assured me of her continued love. I have forgiven her for all. Two years ago, I had another dream of her. In this dream she was wrapped in a shroud and near her tomb. She pointed at another tomb. I did not know quite what to make of this. In fact it frightened me. A month or so after her death anniversary, I visited her grave and said the Rosary. It was on that occasion that I noticed her best friend had been buried next to her. It was a sign . Blessings, I no longer fear death.
my dad died 10 years ago of cancer, my friend died last month from a horrible accident, they are the closest people that has ever died to me.. and now, every few nights, i see them:( by my window, in my room! pale,bruised,skinny,ill staring at me, its horrible, i used to speak and see my dad when i was younger, in a positive way, he was well and happy, i used to speak to him, when he died, i had never said anything in my whole life and no one knew he was dead, i opend my curtains and said ‘mum, dads crying in the sky’.. is it a sign? my mate recently came to me in a dream on his funeral, in his clothes he was buried in, and the flowers i put down for him, he apolojized for everything,said he was going to look out for me, but it was asif he was answering to my thoughts? because i never said some of the stuff he mensioned out loud, but i had cryed and cryed over them, just recently i keep seeing them both in my room, its so scary, they stare at me..its lke they are acthually there.. is it my mind playing tricks? is there such thing as gosts and stuff? someone please help me im only 14, i havent been myself since it has started:/ help:(
ok here we go, i had a dream 4 year ago at 4am i no the time because i woke up straigt after, as i was sleeping my granfather walked into my dream as clear as day, we were at a place looking through my aunts window (his daughter) he was wanting me to look my mind traveled through the door to see her and her brother , my uncle, my grandfathers son, they were crying hugging each other, my mind came back outside to my grandfather he was standing in the best way i remember him, he said to me you know what i am asking you to do i said yes, he was wanting me to look after his son my uncle, as soon as i realised this i looked at him and realised he had died, i watched him give me a quick goodbye and he disapeared like a star, i woke up looked at the clock and went owe my god that was strange it was 4am, i went back to sleep the next morning i got a call that my grandfather had died last night 4am, i cant explain this, never dreamed of him before and we didnt expect him to die, since then iv had visions i see people and then realise its not them, then find out later that the person i thought it was was dead, i need help as im wanting to channel this to good use. Thank you
It’s nice to have these places to share your thoughts. I recently lost my 14 year old son, on January 14. He was walking home from a friends, and was struck by a transport.
Exactly a week later, to the day, a very strange occurrence. with no one around, my dog somehow got out of the house, and was also struck by a transport. (Yes, we live on the highway). The dog never, ever went near the road.
An Ojibway friend told me that in her father’s culture, they say when a child is taken, they first go on a journey of some sort, before coming to their final place. In this culture, the child comes back to retrieve their animal companion from life, as the animal helps guide them on their journey.
So, a part of us are choosing to believe that somehow, some way, my son let the dog out, and coaxed her to the highway, telling her to be with him.
Now, the radio in the living room keeps turning on, by itself, at random times. Normally when I am thinking or talking about how quiet it is in the house without child or dog, and how much I miss them.
I’m sure in time, the pain will ease, but each day seems to get worse right now, instead of better. The radio helps soothe me, but I wish I knew more. Sadly, I live in a very remote part of Canada, and the nearest medium/psychic/etc. is hours away.
In April 2010 my father passed away unexpectably on Good Friday. He was only 58 so this was very difficult for my family. I, being his oldest child, and alson the one who lived 3 hours away, took it quite hard and regret not seeing him prior to his death. About two months after he died I became pregnant, even though my husband had a vasectomy and I took the morning after pill to insure that I could not conceive. However, it still happened and 9 months later my beautiful baby girl was born. The strange thing is that this little girl (who is a year old now) is so much like my dad. He loved cars, food, and the beach. She loves cars and car rides, as well as keys (and not the toy keys). She loves water and most of all she eats enaything you give her. My other children never ate as well as she does. She even eats more than my 6 year old and most of what she eats is food only adults would eat. It just amazes me how similar she is to my dad and how much her personality matches his. I am convinced she is a gift from him and was sent to me to help me deal with the grief I was feeling.
Hi my little sister Alexis passed away on the 7/01/2012 (she was 19) from a Tragic Hot Air Baloon Accident. She was shouted the trip by her bf Chrisjan. She was very religious and a real giver…always looking out for others….and I miss her so much. We were very close and lived together. My mum said a black lab came running up to her when we visited the site of the accident every body there (the cops and forensic people) thaught it must be a sign as it only ran to my mum from quite a distance. Also the day after there were some helium balloons hovering in one spot for quite some time,I would like to communicate with my sister like say a proper goodbye, as I go in to her room and see every thing how she left it and it feels like shes only away on a holiday, and will be back. If shes Christian would she find it annoying if I try contact her? And also whats a good way? And would she already passed as my bf had a dream that she and chrisjaan left holding hands after we visited the site…. Love and light emma.
emma, your sister will no doubt be going through a kind of debriefing right now for her belief in fictitious faith and to adjust to things as they really are but before that happened she would be around for a while watching what went on with her family and all that, the ones that pass over know how much we love them and there is no worry that she doesn,t know that, however after her period of adjustment she will be able to view what is going on with her loved ones, whether she will try and leave messages for any of you is anyones guess, but like i said she would have been near by shortly after she passed but would have to go for a kind of readjustment, how long this will take depends on how her beliefs were ingrained, however this period will come to an end and she will be free to continue with the next stage of her enlightenment, rest assured she knows of your love for her, and whats more she will visit you on a number of occassions no doubt, its just that we don,t know they are there, some people who are sensitive enough and can adjust there vibratory level can sense spirits abroad, however if she wants you to know she is ok she will try and send you a message, just keep an open mind, she is in a better place now and no doubt would not want you to worry,keep her momory a happy thing and she will be happy as well,
linda g, nice to hear that someone else has managed to see through the oldest trick in the world, i of course mean religion, i often despair that a lot of people fall for the rhetoric, of course this is why the brain wash starts early in a lot of so called faiths, catch them while young and in there formative years and impressionable, if you want any further vocal on the subject feel free, harry
Hello – my father passed away on January 23rd 2012. He was 75 (3 days short of his 76th birthday on Jan 26). He had lung cancer and after 5 months of being sick he finally passed away peacefully with all the family around him. I keep asking him to come to me in my dreams, but so far nothing. My sister bumped into a friend who has he ability to see the “others”. She said that my father was with my sister and that he would be with her for many years. She told her a few other things that no one would have known. I only hope that at sometime he will come and visit me. Just knowing he is still with us (in spirit) is very comforting.
jenifer tyler, no doubt your little treasure is a part of what has happened to your father, however let me say that no one is an expert in these matters because of the vast ammount of knowledge one would have to acrue on the subject of the so called paranormal, if indeed we were allowed all knowledge which we aren,t, i fear, however let me try to explain somewhat, we do come back to this earthly plane time after time (re incarnation) but it usually takes any number of years before the time is right for our return (short answer} however it is not unknown in certain circustances that we can on very rare occasions come back if we choose much sooner than that, for any number of reasons (short answer} what i am saying is that this little treasured bundle of yours may well be your fathers spirit returned, however a lot of people could not get their head around that so if you also are like that then don,t read anymore, there is obviouly a strong link in your case between your daughter and your father and i think its a point you should watch for over the years, if she is as good as gold and never gives you any trouble i think we could probably assume that what i suggest is probably so, in fact i often wonder if i am my own grandfather returned for my mothers sake, she tried years to conceive and only after her father died she did, so they had me later in life, and guess what, when the old midwife delivered me she said to my mother that this ones been here before, reffering to me, so people will believe what they want to believe or what they have been conditioned to believe but i think that in time you will probably agree with me and consider the possible fact that your daughter may well be you know who, best of everything to you and be thankfull,
janet, of course what you ask is possible, just because that we have never met relations from this plane doesn,t mean that there is no spiritual connection, in fact don,t qoute me on this and take it as so, but one of them may have even been assigned as one of your guides, these are spirits that help during life at certain times, one never knows but stranger things have no doubt happened, may be you would consider trying one of those family tree optians that are available, there are free ones out there i have heard, if you are interested in what relations are – were – or did, hope this was of some help,
jen trow, your mother is happy believe me, may be she as tried to send you signs and you have just missed them, people talk of feathers, well its possible i have heard many times of them being left in places that were not usual, electrical appliances acting strange, think back over the period, she no doubt knows that you love her very much because when they are on the other side there is no hiding ones feelings from them, i advise as usual to talk to her daily as if she is still there and she will hear you, remember her as she was at her best and that is exactly as she is now, on the astral there is no time as we know it so when its your turn to go over she will be waiting to guide you no doubt,
So sad to read all these stories, I hope we are all remaining strong. My Dad died at about 11.30pm on December 3rd 2011. I received a phone call from his new wife of 3 weeks that Dad had had a heart attack at 12.20am. I was on my way home from the pub as I am only 20, and said I would come round straight away. On arrival there were 2 ambulances out the front. I parked my car and ran up to 3 ambo officers outside. I couldnt see Dad in the ambulance so assumed he must ok if they werent attending to him. I asked them where Dad was and they told me he was upstairs in his bedroom. I felt relief. I then asked, ok so how is he? They replied..im sorry mam he is deceased. At that point I utterly couldnt believe it! I was not expecting that what so ever considering he was only 51, was fit and healthy, no health problems at all! I broke down instantly on the concrete. After a bit I went inside and about 20 friends of his wifes were all lined up the stairs as I stumbled up..It was becoming way too true. At the top of the stairs his wife came out of the bedroom and said, my darling victoria its not true..its not true..his feet are still warm..come feel them. I walked into Dads bedroom and took one look at Dad and knew he was gone. Poor Jenny (his wife) was continuing to disagree, saying that they had gone out to dinner that night as usual, came home watched tv as usual, went to bed about 9.30pm then she heard Dad snoring as usual. Dad rolled over and said he had a sore back and began sweating heaps..and that was it. I am very upset that Dad is gone, I have only got too know him properly over the last 2yrs as my parents divorced when I was young, I never got to say goodbye or even tell him I loved him as we were still developing our relationship. I was so angry with him on New Years night I was screaming and crying in my car about how he could do this too me etc, then a dog out of nowhere ran and jumped on my lap while I was still in the car. No one knew where this dog came from, but it came in the house full of strangers and wouldnt stop following me around. We named him Sam as Dad used to have several dogs called Sam.Hours passed and Sam was still hanging out with us. We decided to lock him out so he would go home, but he kept appearing everytime!! We decided to go to the beach for a new years swim and sam jumped in the car with us and came along! Back at home he continued to keep getting in the house when nothing was left open, he whined at the doors from outside and cryed. We eventually went to sleep and in the morning he was gone, and we have never seen Sam since. Heres a gorgus photo from the night…http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=3260613358647&set=a.3260583517901.2160479.1366583727&type=1&theater
Im not a dog type of person..so I really felt it was Dad with me there that night. Nothing has happened since and the rest of my family have all had dreams about him except me.. I really want to dream about him so I can see and hear his voice again! I am keen to go see a physic so I can try to connect with him again. I just miss him so much! Can anybody help? I live in Aucklnd NZ. All the best to everyone! LOVE YOU FOREVER & ALWAYS DADDY! XX