What Happens in a Cord Cutting Session

I wrote this blog post for the curious people who want to know what a cord cutting session is like.  It’s also for those who have booked a cord cutting so they know a bit about what to expect.

Cord-cutting sessions are slightly weird (in a good way) if you’ve never had one before, and very different from a reading. (For a start, unlike in a psychic reading, we do not involve spirit guides or other astral-level beings in a cord-cutting session.)

So here’s what happens when you book a cord-cutting.  Please note that this is a summary for the purposes of the curious reader or the client who has already booked a session.  I don’t include all details of the cord-cutting session in here – just enough so that you can familiarize yourself with the process. 

Setting your Intention

At the start of the session, I ask you for your intention – one way in which you’d like your life to be different or better through this session. That way, you are in control of your healing. Here are some examples of intentions you could bring to the session:

• I want to increase my self-confidence
• I want to have better boundaries and feel comfortable with saying ‘no’ to people
• I want to improve my relationship with so-and-so
• I want to let go of a past relationship with so-and-so
• I want to feel less attached to my mother/father
• I want to feel sexier/more attractive
• I want to be more respected at work
• I want to become more successful at earning money

Sometimes we refine the intention if the client brings one to the session like ‘I don’t want to feel X, Y, or Z anymore.’ We try to turn it into a positive intention of what the client does want to experience, as it’s more powerful that way.

Creating a Sacred Space

Next, we create a sacred space.  For it to be a sacred space, you preferably should be alone in the room (it’s better to leave the dog or cat outside of the room) and at that point the client chooses a ‘divine being’ to bring the healing energy of a session.  Obviously it isn’t me who heals a client, it’s the divine being who’s in charge of the session.

What’s a Divine Being?

Divine beings are ascended masters, deities, Goddesses and archangels.  Some examples: Ascended master Jesus, Ascended master Buddha, Mother Mary, Saint Germain, Krishna, Ganesh, Quan Yin, Athena, St Francis, Merlin.  They are also the Archangels such as Archangel Raphael, who brings healing and Archangel Gabriel, who facilitates communication.  Another favourite is Archangel Michael who protects and removes things you no longer want or need.  Of course you can even call on God for the session, otherwise known as the cosmic intelligence, the creator of all beings, Source or the Great Spirit.

Once we’ve summoned the divine being and created a sacred space by asking for protection and cleansing through violet flames and divine support for the client’s aura, we decide who to cut cords with.

Who to cut cords with?

Sometimes clients already know who they want to cut a cord with, and I check we have divine permission to do this. Occasionally we can be refused permission to cut a cord (for example, if the client is emotionally unstable and would go through a healing crisis by cutting the cord, then permission would not be given.) 

The divine beings have the client’s wellbeing in mind.  But a scenario like that is fairly rare.

Occasionally I may find that a client needs to remove some astral debris from their aura before we can go ahead and cut a cord. So, if you book an aura healing session with me, you do need to be prepared for this possibility – I may instead suggest we use your session time for removing astral debris. Then if you wish you can book another session to remove the cord of attachment you had in mind. This does not happen often but can occur, so please bear that in mind when booking.

Back to the cord cutting process. Presuming that we have Divine permission to go ahead and cut a cord, here’s what happens next…

Sometimes clients are not sure who to cut cords with, but they have a few ideas.  What I can do is check which cord, if cut, might help to bring about that intention they set.  Sometimes we find out which is the most toxic, but I always leave it up to the client to decide which cord to cut.

If you are getting a session with me, you want to be cutting a major cord of attachment in the session (to make it worth your while).

Who do we normally have major cords of attachment to?

- Those who have hurt you with violence or abuse of some form
- Those involved with you (or those who caused for you) a major accident or trauma
- Parents
- Siblings
- Biological parents (if you happen to be adopted)
- Children
- Sexual partners involved in conceiving a child
- The person with whom you lost your virginity
- Ex-lovers you lived with or ex-spouses
- Childhood friends
- Spiritual teachers, healers or therapists who influenced you negatively
- Cult leaders
- Bullies from childhood (or adulthood!)
- Extremely difficult employers, employees, co-workers or clients

Let’s say the client has decided to cut the cord to an ex-boyfriend.

Next, I take a look at two ‘chakra databanks’ which are most affected by the cord this client has to her ex.  This is like a ‘before’ picture, so we can get a clear picture of how this cord affects them, emotionally, mentally and in their behaviour.

What are chakra databanks?

You have probably heard of chakras before – most people know we have seven major chakras (and many minor ones, too.)  If you don’t know about chakras, you might like to read this basic article I wrote on the human energy body. 

As for chakra databanks, let’s look at the throat chakra as an example. The throat chakra is the centre of communication and self-expression.  There are dozens of databanks within the throat chakra, all related to different aspects of your communication and self-expression. You can visualize them as being of all different sizes, some small and some large.

One databank in your throat chakra might be how you react when someone attacks you verbally (tongue-tied? Aggressive? Etc.)  Another might be your communication style when dealing with colleagues or superiors at work.  Another might be how easy you find it to communicate your feelings in a romantic relationship. Another still might be your presence when speaking in front of a group of people. If you have great presence speaking in front of a group, this databank will be fairly large (how about 40ft?) – projected a long way out of your body, and other people will notice this subconsciously. If you feel self-conscious, embarrassed and mumble your words quietly while speaking in front of a large group people, that databank corresponding to public speaking may be full of negative energy (like negative thought patterns) that obscure the gifts there and the databank may be very small (perhaps an inch), creating little to no presence.

Anyway, back to our client.

Let’s call this fictitious client ‘Abigail’.  And let’s say that the cord with her ex-boyfriend is affecting Abigail in two major negative ways.

At her sacral chakra – how good Abigail feels about her body/sexual self-esteem

Not very good – self-conscious and unconfident (maybe he made a few hurtful comments about her body and now she feels self-conscious.)

In terms of size, this databank looks about 2 inches.

At her throat chakra – how free she feels to communicate to someone that they’ve done something she didn’t like (i.e. verbal self-protection.) 

Not free at all. Feels unable to speak up for herself when someone doesn’t honour her.  Maybe Abigail’s ex-boyfriend walked all over her, but she didn’t want him to leave her, and she feels unable to stand up for herself (perhaps this is a pattern she’s had in other relationships too.)

This is reflected in the size of the databank, which might be half an inch.

These are just two made up examples.

Where is the Cord?

Next, we find out where the cord is on the client’s body, for the purposes of cutting it.

Giving Permission

Now I ask the client to read out a permission statement, giving the Divine Being (and me) permission to cut the cord.  This is like a spiritual contract and it is needed in order for the healing to happen.

Cutting the Cord

Then the cord cutting happens along with the help of the divine being. And the cord goes into the violet flame that we set up, one in every corner of the room, when we created the sacred space.

Putting on the Bandage

In order to rebalance, we put a bandage on the client’s aura, where the cord came out. It is necessary to fill that space where the cord came out, because nature abhors a vacuum. 

I usually ask the client if they’re happy with Archangel Raphael doing this.  I find out how long the bandage needs to be on and the client chooses some crystals or gemstones to be placed on the bandage, finishing off with a white one.  Sometimes they choose things other than crystals.  I ask clients to close their eyes and take a deep breath and see what comes into their mind.  For example – a soft blanket, a rose, a piece of jewellery or some driftwood. Then the bandage is put into place by the divine being.

Getting the Dialogue

Within a cord of attachment, there are negative patterns of behaviour, thought and emotion that circulate in the cord, back and forth between the two people, 24/7.  This part of the session is for finding out which energies are present in the cord and this is called ‘the dialogue’.

It might be things like:

Abigail: You never listen to me

Ex-boyfriend: I need you to keep giving to me.  You can never give me enough.

Etc etc.

It usually takes between 5 and 10 minutes for me to retrieve all the dialogue within a cord, then I read it out to the client. There is quite a lot of detail in there. This can be very validating to hear what was in the cord, because those patterns circulate back and forth between the client and the cordee and can affect the relationship and the client’s emotions, power and clarity (amongst other things).

The patterns within a cord do not even need to be the dominant things of the relationship.  They are not the whole story about the relationship or everything about the client or the cordee. Sometimes they can even be thoughts and emotions from one single event, which have got stuck in the cord at some point.

The cord patterns can be likened to an intravenous drip.  In Abigail’s case, the drip has the label ‘my ex-boyfriend Alex’ on it and that drop goes into her system bit by bit, 24/7.  Subtle but harmful, because the substances are toxic.

Discussion

Once those patterns are no longer flowing into the client’s aura, we talk about how they were affecting her and we discuss the question of what can change now that the cord is cut. Depending on the client, this can take 5 minutes or 10 minutes or longer.

The ‘After’ Picture

After the discussion, I take a look at those two chakra databanks that were examined before the healing (in the sacral chakra and the throat chakra), to see what has changed in them.  The result is always that the databanks are bigger, clearer and more in proportion.  I give a description of this to the client.  Sometimes the difference is huge, sometimes it’s respectable, but it’s always an improvement.

Homework

Afterwards, I receive some practical homework for the client to do around the healing. It can be anything from a written assignment, a brainstorm to do, a practical task or something to think about or meditate upon.

Then we complete the session and cut any ties between us or anyone else who was thought about or spoken about during the session. We hang up, and I send you the recording.

I hope that satisfies your curiosity and helps you to know what to expect, if you have already booked a cord-cutting session!

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