Posted in Developing Psychic Abilities / The Spirit World on 10. Aug, 2010
I know quite a few psychics who have already written about coming out of the psychic closet.
- Erin Pavlina wrote an article on it here: Coming out of the Broom Closet
- Professional intuitive Slade Roberson also wrote about it in his article: The Psychic Closet.
Maybe I am just cowardly, but in spite of doing readings professionally for people, I’m still not keen on stepping out into the world with a t-shirt that has a big ‘P’ on it for Psychic.
Because without wanting to sound arse-y or defensive: the parts of me I choose to reveal (and to whom) – that’s my business.
Who am I?
I’m a linguist, a psychic, a languages teacher, a creative/writer, a sister and a daughter. I’m also mad about cats and food. I’m a traveller who is beginning to settle down. I don’t think I’ve ever let go of the role of student.
Which one of these roles defines me?
Which of these do I want to put on my t-shirt that I wear when I’m out in the world?
It depends on who’s asking.
If you’re interested in psychic abilities, then you can Google something I’ve written about (like developing psychic ability) and find me that way. Otherwise you won’t know about my spiritual side. And why would you? If you don’t inquire about my spiritual beliefs I am not going to shove it down your throat that I’m a spiritual person who believes in ghosts.
I’ve done that before.
A couple of years ago, I was in a room full of Catholics, most of them having attended the very stuffy University I went to (I used to share a flat with a couple of catholic girls who went to the same University as me, and they were having a house party) and when people asked me what I do for a living, I answered ‘I’m a psychic.’ It was a big waste of my energy, emotions and time.
I got into an argument with a Catholic PhD nuclear physicist who wanted me to see that I was on the wrong path and doing people harm. I’m a very polite person, but I’ve reached the point now where I really do not care what intolerant people think of what I do.
I just told him it was perfectly OK that he didn’t believe in what I do. This seemed to bamboozle him further and he repeated his thoughts several times, each time more vigorously, as if he thought I might be persuaded by his logic.
Although I maintained my composure on the outside when I was talking to him, the reality was that it did affect me and I came away from that exchange angry and drained that my beliefs and sanity was up for scrutiny. And the verdict was in: I was both stupid and crazy. I could easily have scrutinized his beliefs too and pointed out the potholes that I see in Christian literature and beliefs, but I was too polite for that, at the time.
Since then, I protect myself from those experiences, and use both intuition and past experiences to guide me. I have found that people in the medical profession can be particularly closed off to the spiritual side of life (although I’ve met some who are open). I’m also not interested in revealing what I do to those who I know have hardcore Christian beliefs. Being intuitive helps with this. I can feel when people are tolerant and open to the spiritual side of life and I also can feel when they are not.
So, I select who I reveal myself to, in order to minimize drains on my energy. I also do not get into arguments or discussions about my work.
Part of my purpose is to share what I do here on my blog and to connect with like-minded people.
It is not to convert others to my way of life or thinking.
Nor is it to check that it is OK with the people around me that I can be psychic.
“What Do You Do?”
I have also had the experience of being ‘out there’ 100% as a full-time psychic when I moved to Brisbane in November 2009. When people asked me what I did for a living in this new place, I told them straight. But I was not at all happy with the way people treated me. People either saw me as an oracle who was a go-to person for spiritual wisdom, or they wanted to trust me but were afraid that I was a potential fraudster. Calling myself a full-time psychic changed the way people viewed me and I could not control that. So I decided to take another approach.
But isn’t this true of anything we might call ourselves?
Yes. If I go around calling myself any one of the roles that are above and being defined solely by that, I can guarantee that people will form ideas – some good and some unfavourable- about who I am. I believe that defining yourself by one label can be limiting.
So, if you’re in the same position and thinking of coming out of the psychic closet, here are some things to think about:
- Do I want to ‘come out’ to everyone? Will it be a drain on my energy and emotions?
- Am I wanting to come out of the psychic/spiritual closet as an excuse to eliminate incompatible people from my life? (do you have any in mind? )
- Why do I want to reveal myself more? In which life area is it important to me, to do this? (if it is in career, maybe it’s about stepping more into a spiritual life purpose rather than putting yourself out there for everyone and his dog to see.)
- Am I trying to justify myself to someone?
Declaring yourself as a psychic to all and sundry (anyone you meet, including those who think you’re of the devil) is energetically a bit like getting naked and going out onto the common and waving a sign about it. Kudos to you if you can do it. For me that attracts unwanted attention (in this context, I’m talking about the wider world. It’s obvious that I’m already online and waving my sign for those who are interested.)
Friends and Family
I definitely recommend revealing yourself – as much as possible – to those who are close to you. My close friends and family have known me as someone who is interested in psychic development for so long that it probably wasn’t surprising to them when I chose this path. As for new friends, revealing that part of me to them (and gauging their reaction) might be part of my friend selection process although it hasn’t been conscious until this moment as I write this.
I don’t need my friends to believe in what I do (my best friend from university doesn’t), but I do need them to be tolerant people. And I prefer talking with those who do some research before writing something off out of hand. I also get on better with people who don’t feel they have ALL the knowledge and data that there is to be had in our solar system. If you believe adamantly that there is no life other than Earth in the Universe and that life here is an accident, then we might have a laugh together (and we might like each other), but on a deeper level, perhaps we wouldn’t see eye to eye nor would I ever feel understood fully by you, and vice versa. Telling people you’re a professional psychic does weed out the more intolerant (or just incompatible) people from your circle. That is an energy-saver.
But on the other hand, for those who might never fully know you (such as acquaintances or strangers), I believe it can be draining to walk around with the psychic label. Doing that does not help me express my life purpose. It just gets me into discussions and exchanges that take my energy away from being a psychic with my clients, and being a writer here on my blog.
I prefer that my energy and personality speaks louder than any of the labels above.
At the end of the day, my path of psychic development has healed me from my past. I am much calmer, happier, and I am living my spirit. Of course I’m not fearless but I’m more confident these days that I can face what life throws at me. I can more easily feel who people are when I speak to them – on the soul level, which helps me to be more tolerant towards others even when they are directing a lot of negative energy towards me (or others.) It might sound like I am saying I am a saint here. I know I am not perfect or ‘enlightened’ (whatever that means to you) but I feel like I’ve come a long way from the girl I was in my teens, and since my Christian days.
But these are my experiences, and my path. I wanted to share it here in case some can relate to it. I’m also interested in hearing about alternative approaches.
Psychic developers, spiritual people and professional intuitives – who do you reveal yourself to? And how do you do it? Are you trying to come out of the psychic/spiritual closet? How far do you want to come out of it?
- Learn to communicate with your spirit guides
- Know your life purpose & soul gifts
- Learn to read auras & know who other people really are